I never saw this one coming. Only a few people on GS know about my upcoming wedding which was set for Feb 28th and now pushed back to the first week of July.
But looks like this one is falling apart too. Here is the problem. The girl’s father is insanely rich. My father is solvent too. But I am a loser with potential. So, now they want ME to sign a pre-nup. I dont have much of a problem with it, but it seems my parents seem utterly insulted by it. The prenup is monstrous-- a whopping 14 page long doc – and growing. I have taken the liberty of C&Ping some of the language from the Pre-nup.
Basically, they want me to waive and relinquish all claims, now and forever, upon the consummation of marriage, any seperate property that the bride owns.
“Seperate property” defined
all property bride owns PRIOR to marriage
any inheritance received by party
and gift exnahged beteween parties (there goes my diamond ring and jewelry)
Pensions, 401(k)s
I was okay with this, but then they have set the mehr at 25,000 dollars (mind you, this girl is FILTHY rich) and wants me to shower her with diamond rings, big wedding, jewlery (all gifts, and hence “seperate property”).
This one took the cake:
If the bride, as a result of pregnancy with a minor child of chilrdren of the parties, in good faith, discontinues or refrains from full-time or of she terminates employment incident to relocation to a place from which she cannot effectively commute to her present employment for other good and sufficient reason, the groom agrees to the extent not to otherwise already provided herein to support the bride in the same lifestyle as she was prior to the termination of employment.
Does anyone think this is a fair deal? Oh, btw, marital property is divided 50 -50.
MArital property : property acquired by groom and bride AFTER marriage.
I will be posting more excerpts from the pre-nup document.
So like dope, did they draw this up especially for you, or would it have applied to any guy she got married to? They have thought long and hard about it hey.
Why shouldn't there be a pre-nup on property she owns
prior to marriage and that she will be bringing from her daddy's home, not yours. As far as continuing to support
her present lifestyle should she be unable to later on, is
a concept you should definitely be not okay with. Now
is the time to pull out of this arrangement. If this is
bothering you now, it'll bother you ten times more
after marriage. And if you still choose to marry her
because she has some heavenly traits no other
girl in the world possesses, then you will loose
your right to whine and grind afterwards. Simply
cuz you will knowingly put yourself into the situation.
Catty: the draft she sent me is obviously open to corrections, but for now it is flagrantly biased. Needless to mention, this has killed the romance completely. The girl feels bad, but at the same time respects her parents a lot and will walk out if we cant come to a fair compromise. Thank God i didnt make an emotional investment in this. I never do. Learnt it from previous experience.
Catty, I am an old fashioned guy, and i would love to support and take care of my wife, but in this case it is a psychological problem. In the back of my head, I know she has millions, and it would be a drag to bust my hump for 12 hours a day to give her the lifestyle she feels she deserves.
Article XV (Tax return)
both parties can file joint income tax returns with app. fed and state taxing authorities. Except as otherwise provided herein, all liabilities on any such joint income tax returns, whether heretofore or hereafter filed, shall be birne by the parties in the same proportion that their respective incomes bear to the taxable income reported on such returns, except that, in no event, shall the Bride be obligated to pay, or contribute, on account of any taxes or tax liability, any amount in excess of the amount that she would have been required to pay had she filed a tax return seperately from the groom.
Welcome to the new millenium. This is another example of how desi parents singe-handedly destroy their daughters' life by imposing these decadent western values.
Allah (swt) is my witness, i am not joking brother.
Wait till i post Article II (exempting gifts, devises, and inheritances from equitable distribution)
Equitable distribution, as defined by Section 236, Part B, of the domestic relations law of the State of New York.
The reason why i am posting this is because i want to know is this typical among desis? Thsi is how they defined me.
WHEREAS, Imran has been for several years worked successfully in the financial services business and has accumulated a certain amount of wealth (which i have to disclose before the marriage is solemnized), and since for the present time has opted to obtain further education, he has not yet reached his full earnings potential.
, Its perfectly normal for ur parents to feel that way