haha I was at a dinner party where a mother went upstairs to put her son on the toilet and came back downstairs. Minutes later we hear him calling for his mother, he was sitting on the carpetted stairs - no pants/undies sliding down the stairs, pointing to his bum saying "mommy there's something stuck in there" !!! HAHHAHAHA..... now the ladies house we were at is OCD in cleanliness so u can imagine her look and what she was going thru !
Mothers... please stay in the washroom with your kids until they know when they're done !!!
honey the boy was 9 years old.. its not advice.. perhaps common sense that if he hasn't gotten the hang of it then its best not to leave him alone in the washroom.
eeeeewwwwwwwww - a 9 year old????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
my kids were washing themselves since they were 5! and I am NOT kidding.
What's wrong with parents STILL washing up a pre-teen!
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lol - okay meenz - we see an age correction to 7 year old =)
but even a 7 year old is too old to NOT go to the bathroom by themselves and NOT be able to wash up... and on top of that "slide" down the stairs pointing things.... NO WAY GIRL!
Unless that child has a developmental delay problem - the child will NOT do that at that age either =)
If not please don't dool out parenting advice because you have NO CLUE!
I just sit back and see women who use to say "my child would never do this... and I would never let my child..." But parenting is not exact science and kids will sometimes do embarassing thing.
Diapers leak, vomit happens, sometimes your child doesn't want to share.... so please give them a break and lend a helping hand... put the child pants up or something.
Instead of judgement....
Thank you
Sure, I'm sure it's tough. No one is expecting perfection. But when parents do NOTHING to guide their children as to what is right and appropriate behavior when visiting or interacting with others, I feel that is unacceptable. So, I do help out -- I will tell the kid exactly what they should or should not do. And the parents should be ashamed that I have to.
Wow…a whole lot of judgments being passed in here!
Tut tut tut Judgy McJudgerson!
Okay! I AGREE with parents getting their kids to behave.
I personally know a couple where the mom pretends as if she doesn’t see anything her son is up to , but the dad is going crazy trying to control the kid.
I try my best to get my kids to behave, and mashallah they are very well-behaved ( at least the 3 year old is up till now , I can’t say too much about the 1 year old )
But you also have to let kids be kids sometimes.and there is also an age when kids will be throwing more tantrums etc , and you HAVE to let it go.
And you can’t really judge and pretend as if your kid wouldn’t do that , because you REALLY DON’T know!
Trust me , I used to think the same way , so I kinda know where you’re coming from!
And it would also be funny to see how many of the people complaining here are actually parents themselves! And please , nieces , nephews , cousins etc etc etc don’t count
There are some kids who truly are hyper and/or out of control, but MOST of the people I know try their very best to keep their kids behaving properly, sharing, asking nicely (and all the other fun parent-y stuff heh).
And why would you complain if the lady moves your breakables to the upper shelves!!!
Maybe she’s being nice and doesn’t want to stress over your stuff breaking while she’s visiting! Kids ARE KIDS after-all!
I have never done this myself , but my close friend does whenever she visits , but I’ll try to tell her not to do that some place else , because as there may be some bad-tameez children, there are also some grown-ups who might be totally stuck-up!
This is also on the the reasons I am not very comfortable visiting people who don’t have kids yet.And this thread right here proves how right I was.
Because the people who have kids , seem to be much more relaxed, sympathetic and understanding.
If you don't want kids at your house (say please don't bring the kids).
I love having kids in my home. My cousins and nieces and nephews and such are regular visitors. I didn't realize it was an all or nothing sort of deal -- either you have no children, or you let your house become a zoo.
^ Yes, clearly, I am incredibly stuck up. That's the problem. Thank you.
Lol! Hey now!
I'm not pointing at you , I don't even remember who said what in this thread , but you have to admit , some people are tooo sensitive to anything that kids do.
I agree , there might be a few that are just a bit OTT , but you can't blame every parent and child.
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^ I guess I've never wanted that kind of dinner. My brothers and I were never excluded when parents' friends invited my parents over. I think it's important for families to socialize together, it's important to build community, and it's important for the children as they grow older and understand how to interact with others, of all ages and different circumstances.
Accidents happen. Kids drop things, they pee in their pants, they bump into things, etc. I actually have no issue with that kind of stuff. My concern is when children are actually MISBEHAVING and parents don't speak up to try to address the issue and to guide and train the child. We learn right and wrong from our parents, we learn how to react from our parents. We need their guidance. More and more schools and jobs require social interaction to achieve success. From the beginning we should be teaching our children how to enjoy themselves, how to grow and learn, while helping them understand boundaries and appropriate behavior.
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This kid once came over to our place and shook our fish aquarium so hard that it almost fell off the rack. His parents just watched and laughed saying oh how naughty he is! Then he tried to climb up this beaded curtain I had and everything fell of course!
At that time I didn't have kids so I was a little judgemental. Now I realize that parents have to sacrifice some of their time to "connect" with their children. Just feeding them and cleaning their pottys isn't the only responsibility of a parent but spending valuable time with them is very important and teaching them social behavior and skills.
In situations where my kids have been annoying, I've taken them to the side and threatened them softly and they have listened. They know when mom becomes a monster! I think before someone else points a finger at my child, I need to be proactive and take charge.
But I agree, many parents just take it easy and I'm not sure why.
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^ this one kid, who I mentioned in my earlier post is a total bully.He pushes , shoves , hits and screams.He is only 6 months older than my child, (and my husband does'nt like it when he comes over heh).
The mother NEVER stops him , and it makes me really angry.The father , however tries his best , but obviously , since it's not a combined effort, he knows he can get away with it.
He also once broke my shoe (!) bu pulling the buckle off of it, and the mom laughs it off.
That made me sad , as those shoes belonged to my mother , and i had qabza'd them from her .hehe
So there are people like that out there , but not 'many'.
Most of the people I know , try their best.I mean come on , didn't your mothers try?
I know for a fact , we wouldn't get away with too much with my parents.
It's just that the posts above seem to imply as if all the parents out there don't give a damn, which isn't true , or at least not in my experience.
My other pet peeve is when people with young kids come into my house and immediately start to move the decorative items around, on to higher shelves and such, so that the child doesn't break things and make a mess. That is ludicrous. Baby animals can learn what items they are supposed to avoid; I know a small child can!
For some reasons I am quite Amazed by this comment... Do you have your own kids? have you raised one?
I have a 15 month old boy and I do try my best to discipline him but when he sees something that interest him or something new, he wants to touch it, taste it, sense it.... ans if he is at a new place (somebody's house) everything is fasicnating to him...... my living room has carpet, sofas and toys only... I had to take my coffetable to the basment because he kept walking under it and getting hurt...
when people have decorating items in their living room and I am visiting them, wither i have to hold him with my ALL the time, which is not as bad for myself as for him because he wants to go explore.... cant I just ask or help them move those items to higher place... i dont want them broken.. whats wrong with that?
ofcourse i dont go to someone's house where i dont think i should... and if someone has mentality of urs then i would never even think about going....
but you cant really stop a kid of that age from totally touching anything....
or maybe you have found a way to discipline toddlers if so then I would love to know as I am a first time parent and still learning a whole lot every day!
For some reasons I am quite Amazed by this comment... Do you have your own kids? have you raised one?
I have a 15 month old boy and I do try my best to discipline him but when he sees something that interest him or something new, he wants to touch it, taste it, sense it.... ans if he is at a new place (somebody's house) everything is fasicnating to him...... my living room has carpet, sofas and toys only... I had to take my coffetable to the basment because he kept walking under it and getting hurt...
when people have decorating items in their living room and I am visiting them, wither i have to hold him with my ALL the time, which is not as bad for myself as for him because he wants to go explore.... cant I just ask or help them move those items to higher place... i dont want them broken.. whats wrong with that?
ofcourse i dont go to someone's house where i dont think i should... and if someone has mentality of urs then i would never even think about going....
but you cant really stop a kid of that age from totally touching anything....
or maybe you have found a way to discipline toddlers if so then I would love to know as I am a first time parent and still learning a whole lot every day!
Thanks,
Sanna
You know, I don't have an answer or a solution to this. I know it's not from bad intentions. But I think that when the first step is to change the environment in anticipation of what the child will do, we are telling the child that it's okay to not have boundaries. Of course things will break in the process of teaching children. I don't care about things. Whenever people come and move things in my house, I always tell them not to worry about those little knickknacks, let them be, s/he won't do anything. Kids test and push the adults around them more often than we test and push them. Our reactions give them information, and we need to be aware of that. So many of my cousins' kids have stayed in our house, and I have not moved everything around to "baby-proof." And things have been fine. I'm not a parent, and I don't know exactly what those parents did to teach their child, but what I have observed is that these parents don't have hugely different routines after having children. They have a laid back but firm approach to making their children part of their lives.
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All we need is a bit of tolerance for people's children. If parents don't stop their kids from messing around then I take matters in my hand and instead of shouting at them or stopping them I just involve them in conversation or read them a book or ask for help in kitchen or something.
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