And i believe we all have good's and bad's in ourselves... Nobody is perfect,so i guess we all have to compromise after the shaadi..
Exactly. But in reality, it's the female who has to give up everything, the male nothing. I for example, was promised before the wedding, that I could finish education ( I was in a lab school) and that I could live in Holland if I wanted and he would come here, in the end I was forced to quit education without diploma, he refused to move here, so I had to move to France. And even after that, I had to give up even more. Nothing left. Spending the whole day alone in the house, only with his brothers and his visiting sister and his parents, but even though they were loving before marriage, after marriage they weren't pleasant to be around. Cleaning and cooking all day long, etc. nothing else, there was nothing nice to do, no reading books the first few years, no pleasant conversations, nothing. Instead, there were problems. I was often accused of things I didn't even do!
A marriage shouldn't be like that. Both should give up something. And everyone always goes on and on about how females have to do this and obey and not do that.
What about males? They aren't allowed to beat their wifes on any body part just for nothing! They aren't allowed to mistreat their wives in any way! Nobody quotes the verses or hadith about what males should or shouldn't do, mostly every one quotes the verses and hadith about what females should or shouldn't do. Everyone is strict about females. Males can be horrible husbands and still be respected by everyone. While if a female does something to protect herself, everyone is against her!