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I think you should take a deep breath, and move back. You have family there, so it cant be that bad. Also, it is important to give your guy adequate space for career and professional development, everyone has a need for achievement and by making him stay here you are stifling his need. A brighter future for him, means a brighter future for the two, or rather three of you. Just my 2 cents.
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nadz woh gaana suna hai
JahaN piya wahaN main : )
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Seriously, shouldn't you be happy that your husband will finally get a chance to fullfil his potential and persue a solid career in something that he always planned to? I'd be thanking God if I were you. I can understand you not being happy about leaving your parents, its normal, but this is something you can overcome if you allow yourself to be thankful about your husband getting a chance to be independent and successful in life. You know there are girls who get married and they don't just leave their parents' house but get settled in far far away countries, at least you had your parents (instead of inlaws) help you to get settled in married life and parenthood.
Your husband's a father now, and he has every right to look for the best for himself and his family. And you too seem like a grown up person, so I suggest time to say goodbye to mommy and daddy and support your husband for building a better future for you and your childern. Trust me, life is all about compromises.
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If you wouldn't have agreed before marriage then I would say tell him to go alone.. but as you have agreed.. I think its your time to fulfil your promise to him..
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nadz, what will waiting accomplish? you won't want to leave your parents. once you go, there will be thing you enjoy about life there.
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nadz stop trolling you know what you need to do
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If you wouldn't have agreed before marriage then I would say tell him to go alone.. but as you have agreed.. I think its your time to fulfil your promise to him..
Agree..
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you hav to go this time i dont think so u hav any other option .. life mai khabi kese or ki baat b maan lai na chaiya :)
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This is nothing to fight over.. it will only make everything worse for you.. don't resist it.. Just go with the flow.. once you get there.. it might not even be as hard as it seems now to you.. and regarding your parents.. I'm sure he will allow you to come and visit them once in a while..
I came to live with my husband here in UK.. from Holland.. so I've left my parents.. but sometimes they visit me.. and I visit them..
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instead of lying about the appointments etc how about u talk and even do a proper argument why u think going back isnt such a great idea.
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everyone posting in this thread has no real solution, she does not want to move back and she does not want to leave him.
There is only one real solution here,
let me bust out some wisdom for you unimaginative thinkers.
get him brainwashed.
problem solved
sincerely
Your spiritual guide
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How about a bit honesty instead of excuses? Talk to him and bring this out in open that you aree having 2nd thoughts about the move. Explore the possibility of him settling here in UK. These childish excuses will only make things worse for you, as he wouldn't know the real reason you are reluctant to go back.
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You should go with your husband. You don't need to ruin your future just because you'd be away from your parents, you're not a baby anymore so do what is better for your child.
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honesty shmonesty,
brainwash!!!!
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tu pir sahib.. koi taweez shaweez likh do bachi ko.
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o naheen, my taveez are not for such chotay problems, they are for unique situations.
I may change my mind if i am there, and I will be headed home over xmas holidays so u never know
which reminds me, you can have the honour of feeding me at nandos.
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ay lo.. I myself is looking for a driver to get me to a halal KFC.. where would I find a halal nandos in sheepland!
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Nadz...you know what to do. You will have to go sooner or later so might as well pack up now.
Why are you looking at this like a sentence? Will anyone stop you from coming here once you move? You never know...with more security...you can make more trips back home.
Stop worrying and take the plunge woman...its going to be alright.
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Nadz...you know what to do. You will have to go sooner or later so might as well pack up now.
Why are you looking at this like a sentence? Will anyone stop you from coming here once you move? You never know...with more security...you can make more trips back home.
Stop worrying and take the plunge woman...its going to be alright.
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sorry I wouldn't go to Pakistan if I were you.. there is no safety, no power, no water but most of all no justice system either. Nadz tell your husband he can go back and look after his career but why should he be dragging you and the kid to this mess.. you and your kid can stay here in uk, and family can meet on vacations. That's all!