Re: don’t know what to do…
Exactly, Rainbow. You see the two male members …especially SheheryarKhan…has got it into his head that taking a break from your spouse is the equivalent of getting a divorce/ending the marriage. So when some members here advised that if reasoning with your husband doesn’t work and only makes matters worse…that you take a break from him for a while…some people misunderstood that “break” as a divorce. Common sense tells ya it’s not one and the same. But eh…language barrier meets arrogance…is a very off-putting and unyielding combination.
You say that you’re still trying to make it work. Well “still trying” has its limits, Rainbow. He abused you last year and he’s still doing it now. Not much of a change eh. The thing is …it’s not only you that will be affected…you have your daughter’s well-being to worry about. Sure, as a baap and a husband, he can pay for your and your daughter’s needs. But does the financial support compensate for the eroding of one’s self-esteem? Something to think about.
Realize that trying has it’s limits..especially when you see that things are only getting worse. Allah has forbidden oppression for Himself and He has forbidden his servants from opressing others…and enduring oppression does not have any merits either. I think God understands things are not so black and white…that’s why divorce is disliked but not prohibited…if it comes to that. He’s more merciful to us than society is.