Re: don’t know what to do…
Even though you put in your disclaimers of “man and women should work equally hard”…your ending para talks about sacrifice. Sacrifice for who? The man or woman? Its aimed at women because we are expected to do such.
In the end, we know that women WILL make the sacrifices for their marriages because are expected to be the better person. BUT these days…I rarely see people getting married for the same reasons our parents did. We want to marry for love and respect. If you don’t respect your wife, will she teach her children to respect you? Probably not. The damage is not instant but much more harmful than any instant reaction could be.
I have seen many many many people talk about their parents’ marriages…they **don’t **want the same thing. The women resented their husbands, spoke ill about them behind their back, poisoned their children’s minds, etc. People aren’t born with these sentiments…they’re a reaction to how one is treated. You may expect a woman to make all the sacrifices and she may do it but it doesn’t mean you will be a respected member of the household. Children remember these things and never forget anyone mistreating their mother.
These are the actions that create dysfunctional families. Everyone has stayed together but can’t stand each other.
The reason why a man’s disrespect towards a woman is much more dangerous nowadays than it was before is because she actually has a choice to stay or go. Before that was not the case…she stayed because she had nowhere else to go.
You reap what you sow…give respect today and you will earn it back tomorrow.