Re: don’t know what to do?
sometimes gambling pays off. sure, sometimes even when you do check everything out, things may go wrong - does that mean one shouldn’t bother checking? in the OPs case, a little digging into his lifestyle would have shown incompatibility. its hard not to place at least some blame on her/her parents for not doing their basic homework when it comes to picking a groom.
not everyone is out to get married for the same reasons. marrying someone without knowing anything about them is foolish whether it is arranged marriage or otherwise.