Re: don’t know what to do?
Note and suggestion to members of this forums. Good Job + politeness + Good family doesn’t equate or make anyone suitable for rishta . Have you interviewed his friends, close relatives, etc for character reference? If not then, this is another lesson for everyone to please and please do proper investigation.
The advice of one of the companions of the Prophet, Umar Ibn al-Khattab, can help in this regard:
A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and spoke in praise of another. Umar asked him: “Are you his nearest neighbor such that you know his goings and his comings?”
“No.”
“Have you been his companion on a journey so that you could see evidence of his good character?”
“No.”
“Have you had dealings with him involving dinars and dirhams [money] which would indicate the piety of the man?”
“No.”
“I think you saw him standing in the mosque muttering the Quran and moving his head up and down?”
“Yes.”
“Go, for you do not know him…”
And to the man in question, Umar said, “Go and bring me someone who knows you.”
http://soundvision.com/Info/Islam/mar.6adab.asp
May Allah help you through your difficulties. Try going for counseling before you do anything. But Insha’Allah Allah will help you.