Re: don’t know what to do?
I don’t know any mother who would be happy at her daughter getting divorced. HOWEVER, it seems that your mom understands why you need to leave this man and will support your decision. It’s good to know that IF you choose to walk out of this marriage…your mother will be by your side.
I commend you for being honest. Admitting that “fear” is the only reason you’re not leaving him is a major step. But living in the states, I imagine you already know that “divorce” is not the end. You can still go onto living a full-life after a divorce…but only if you CHOOSE to.
As for family members…other telling you that they tolerated “worse” husbands is ridiculous. Think about the LOGIC behind that. There are women out there who become sluts…does that make it “ok” for you to become one? No. Other family members have made CHOICES to live their life a certain way…and YOU need to decide how you want to live your life.
On a side note: Imagine what type of life your future children will have living with this man. Do you want your son to grow up to be like him? Do you want your daughter to grow up thinking that this is the way a wife should be treated?
At the end…this is your life. Put emotions aside and think with your brain. Because at the end…the ONLY one who will live with the consequences of your decision will be you (and your future children). On a day-to-day basis…your mother, family members, friends etc. will not be there.