Don't find spouse attractive anymore?

Iconoclast · June 15, 2010, 9:05pm

Hi there,

I am newly married…about 9 months now. I dated my husband for 4 years before we got married. When we first met, we were both crazy about each other and I found him VERY attractive. He is a very good looking guy and when I met him his weight was normal. As the years went by he gained quite a bit of weight. He is not fat, but definetly stalky or pudgy.

I’ve also gained a little bit of weight, but most people would still consider me slim (I just need to tone a bit). My husband and I both recognize that we both have gained weight (him WAY more than me) and need to work on it, however, he never makes an effort.

The little bit of weight I have gained doesn’t seem to bother him at all. He still considers me physically attractive.

I feel bad saying this, but I honestly am not physically attracted to him anymore. This may sound superficial because its not all about looks, but I can’t help the fact that I am only attracted to good looking guys with a decent physique.

Has anyone gone through this? How do you deal with it?

Tell him to loose weight or you will leave him.