In the beginning of our marriage we lived with his parents, and they were obviously analysing my behaviour towards their son (we were spending a lot of time together), so one day when he was at work they sat me down and started giving me a strange advice. They said “don’t be too chipkoo to him, if you’re chipkoo then he will run away from you”.
I strongly disagreed with what they said because it never happened, I stayed chipkoo and he never tried to go after some other girl. I still think if they were truly sincere in their advice?
well i think this happens in gf bf relationship not in husband wife case i am chipkooo and he is tooo :P
Yes, I agree! If it's bf-gf relationship, then perhaps the guy would run away..
but here, as the first poster said, perhaps they didn't like their son giving you lots of time.
Yeah whats chipkoo?? I think it means being to close to someone? I think they were perhaps either 1) Jealous or 2) Talking from their own experience. You can't really tell with the IL's. It depends on what type relationship you have with them, and even then you can't really tell (from the lovely stories I have heard on here!)
But I thought it was cute to be kind of clingy. It’s hard to strike a balance between being too clingy and being a bit distant, because he may lose interest either way, IMO. The in-laws giving you advice must have been awkward though, lol.
In the beginning of our marriage we lived with his parents, and they were obviously analysing my behaviour towards their son (we were spending a lot of time together), so one day when he was at work they sat me down and started giving me a strange advice. They said "don't be too chipkoo to him, if you're chipkoo then he will run away from you".
I strongly disagreed with what they said because it never happened, I stayed chipkoo and he never tried to go after some other girl. I still think if they were truly sincere in their advice?
happens in some families, no surprise. Parents just cant accept seeing their son being taken away by some one.
No, not really but sometimes I feel that they saw me as an outsider, stealing their son when I was only being a wife.
you have 3 sons, you will feel the same when your sons will get married. i mean some other women is looking after their things and not you.
when my first brother got married, my mother asked my bhabi to call her ami, i didnt like it. as the DIl taking time in adjusting, so is the other party. feeling are mutual. there is no need to worry about as long as your in-laws are not scheming of you kicking out, or kala-jadoo.
you have 3 sons, you will feel the same when your sons will get married. i mean some other women is looking after their things and not you.
when my first brother got married, my mother asked my bhabi to call her ami, i didnt like it. as the DIl taking time in adjusting, so is the other party. feeling are mutual. there is no need to worry about as long as your in-laws are not scheming of you kicking out, or kala-jadoo.
lol...I hate to think that I'd feel the same but who knows, who knows.
It’s hard to strike a balance between being too clingy and being a bit distant, because he may lose interest either way, IMO. The in-laws giving you advice must have been awkward though, lol.
