So the guy I’ve been ‘talking’ to, you know, potential rishta, after 3 days of the same continuous argument, I decided to ‘end’ things. The guys mentality towards certain things just gave me an insight to what life may be, after marriage. I’m not sure how to tell my Mother about this. I’m not even sure when to tell her, as it’s my birthday tomorrow and I don’t want to spoil the atmosphere.
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I think you should tell her as soon as possible rather she call up the other party under the illusion everything is fine, or the party call her up and tell her. I'm not sure if the contact was just between the two of you or between the family in general but you don't want her to hear it from somewhere else first at least that is what seems right to me.
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what' do you think is going to happen between tomorrow and the next day?
Tell her the day after. It's not htat complicated...jeez.
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^Same here, I was wondering how serious of a difference could the day possibly make
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are you in a state of mind where you can enjoy your birthday? are you NOT at least disturbed by all this? if you are not bothered by all this then why NOT tell your parents ASAP before they hear from someone else as Polished Gem has pointed out...that scenario won't look good at all!
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what' do you think is going to happen between tomorrow and the next day?
Tell her the day after. It's not htat complicated...jeez.
What if the guy tells his family, and my household receives the phonecall about the decision I made, tomorrow? That's why I was feeling sceptical and hesitant, 'jeez'.
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I think you should tell her as soon as possible rather she call up the other party under the illusion everything is fine, or the party call her up and tell her. I'm not sure if the contact was just between the two of you or between the family in general but you don't want her to hear it from somewhere else first at least that is what seems right to me.
Thank you for your logical and non patronising reply. I shall break the news in the morning.
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What does your birthday have to do with any of this? 
Done with potential rishta.
Tell ur mam ASAP, u will feel a sense of relief once u do, it will make ur b day better for u. If u don't then u will b in even more tension on ur b day.
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not sure why this is an issue, just tell your family
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She doesn’t want to spoil her birthday. Since she’s the one who ended the rishta…I think she’s afraid that her mom will get mad at her, lecture her, etc.
Pastry,
Obviously the tension of ending the rishta is on your mind right now…even though you haven’t informed your parents yet. So with this tension on your mind…would you be able to enjoy your birthday, even if you don’t tell your parents? IF you think that telling your mom on your birtday will lead to her getting mad at you, lecturing you about the lack of good rishtay/your lack of patience/etc etc and spoiling the atmosphere…then tell her the day after your birthday. Sometimes it can take parents a while to cool down and look at things objectively…their initial reaction might be strong/harsh enough to spoil the mood…and so in that case…by all means, tell her after your bday. You can only delay it, not escape it. Buy yourself some time, and then it has to be done. Besides…i think it’s better for your mom to hear it from you first then from the other party.
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wait... is birthday such a big deal? not in kindergarten right?
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^ jeez guys give her a break.
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keep calm and have some cake
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wait... is birthday such a big deal? not in kindergarten right?
Ugh, yeah my birthday shouldn't have been a big deal. I should have instead wept over my bad kismet and blamed myself for not being able to progress, with the man who was deemed suitable for me.
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Thank you, it went down better than expected <3
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Redvelvet, I love youuu.
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Ditto.
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I'm finding it hard to understand how several posters in this thread, can not find the correlation between the issue I posted and my birthday. However, I shall break it down, gently. It's your lucky day, guys!
Firstly, let me highlight some keywords from my initial post.
***'I don't want to spoil the atmosphere.'
This implies many things, in relation to my birthday, obviously, but I shall stick to the basics.
1) My birthday means something to my Family & I.
2) Birthday celebrations
3) The other party may have been involved in these celebrations.
4) Rishte ending is never pleasant for Parents, therefore, the atmosphere of my birthday would have been ruined by my announcement.
I hope that doesn't hurt your brain cells too much guys. Since it was so difficult for you to comprehend that, all by yourselves.
You're welcome xoxo.
I’m glad things went well. Hope things are smooth between you and your parents.
Ps, happy belated birthday!