I’ve had a lot on my plate for 6 months, so yes, it’s been a long drawn out process. He hasn’t met my family yet even, because of logistical issues.
He called me just now on the way to jummah. Explained that he was kidding around for most of the conversation and it wasn’t that he will dominate my finances or bully me around or order me what to do on a daily basis.
He stated he wants to be the man of the house, like most desi households. Problem is that his friends keep their wives in line, not letting them work, and dominating over them like they can’t be seen in the living room when friends visit and stuff, and so I just think he has that perception that as a man, he has to be the “man of the house”. He said no decisions will be made unless both of us are comfortable, that he’s not going to impose anything on me.
I was like what the hell was that conversation last night?? Bossing around, and maybe I’ll get an allowance? For a damn purse, that I might buy once every two or three years after mine is falling into pieces? Jeez.
He didn’t remember the bullying bit (sure buddy), and said if he said it, bad choice of words. And he was just teasing about an allowance. He said nothing he said last night he has even thought ahead or planned regarding finances, and that he has no clue yet what we’ll do with our monies, since we’re both broke and in debt anyway.
What a punk.
