In a marital/dating relationship, is there always going to be one partner who is dominant or is it possible to have a true a 50/50 partnership? What are the pros/cons of the dominant/subordinate relationship dynamic? And if you’re in a relationship, are you the dominant partner or the submissive partner?
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Slow day at work?
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50/50 I'd say.
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One is always more dominant. In some cases the difference is vast where as in some not that much however i have yet to see a couple where its 50/50.
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We can discuss all night if we want to that it SHOULD be 50/50 but ground reality is that Relationships are more steady if one is more dominant than other. Submissive person can be submissive by nature or by choice.
Forget relationship, even organizations, groups etc works that way. There always has to be one person with dominance (i.e boss)
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heirarchy is like this.
MIL > FIL > SIL > raja beta > scum under kitchen sink > mold > DIL
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AND its always better if the dominant one is the men. Rite?! :k:
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I'd say we're 50/50. There are areas he's more dominant in than me and areas I am more dominant in than him... so overall, 50/50...
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Not really. I accept that I am submissive partner by choice. I have more control over my temper and feelings than begum has and hence I play submissive. I dont see anything wrong with it. Its duty of both to keep the relationship going smoothly. 
(aoo aoo STA …call me Joro ka ghulam 
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Oh ok, Great :k:.
I personally think, from what i have observed of couples around me, it works better if the men is the dominant one in the relationship 
. Now before females jump at me, i am only saying this because men generally have better leading skills.
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D6C I hereby also nominate you as my future daughter’s FIL tooo hypotheticallyy 
umm for me I think it’s 55 45… I being 45% dominating and it works for me. You can get alot of things by not being stubborn and not being too argumentative. Azmooda nuskha :k:
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@ Slims : I’m off-site and yes, these threads are the only thing keeping me from dozing off due to sheer boredom :hinna:
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I think they both are dominant. The husbands make the big decisions, like who will be the president of US, who will be the super power in Asia, who will win the world cup finals.
And the wives make all the small decisions, like what will they eat, where will they go, who should they talk to, what will they wear, where will they live.
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heirarchy is like this.
MIL > FIL > SIL > raja beta > scum under kitchen sink > mold > DIL
This means all ladies should strive for having a son. Maybe this is where that idea comes from?
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have a true a 50/50 partnership
nothing but an illusion! this may not hold true for a larger sample but in my experience, families where the wife is dominant, usually have kids that are very hard to handle for the parents.
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I think both partners can be involved and make a relationship work 50/50. There is nothing more assuring than a husband taking initiative and taking care of things and not being a doormat. In my case, he wants me to just stay home and be pretty while he works and comes home. lol.:halo: Except I dont want that for myself so he is very understanding both ways. We plan on sharing responsibilities but him to take care of finances and all that stuff but we both make decisions together. I guess I’m the more dominant one and we both know that, BUT he is in no way a doormat or naive. He just prefers me having the upper-hand. Of course he steps in when he doesn’t like something or prefers it another way.
Either way, both partners are happy with everything.
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Absolutely agree, any time there is more than one person there will be one leader/dominant member. I am not married as of yet but would hope that my relationship with my husband would be one where we both have a say in important matters. This still doesn’t mean it will be 50/50 because I don’t believe that’s possible. I suppose, I hope it would be plus or minus 5.
Ain’t that bit of contradiction 
You say it should/can be 50/50 but you have the upper-hand? Or are you saying its possible but in your relationship you are more dominant?
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Exactly, it is totally possible and we essentially ARE 50/50 but he prefers me to have the last call and have the upper-hand, by choice. And I have no problem doing that since I was always the oldest of the siblings and the only girl so I have bossy tendencies, ahem. That being said, he is NO doormat or naive or lazy. He just likes the idea of his wife taking care of certain things and bossing him around (without being a mother) and deciding stuff, aaaaand I have no problem doing it. 
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In a marital/dating relationship, is there always going to be one partner who is dominant or is it possible to have a true a 50/50 partnership? What are the pros/cons of the dominant/subordinate relationship dynamic? And if you're in a relationship, are you the dominant partner or the submissive partner?
Wife is the boss.
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^Always sexeh' to hear a man say that. Note to men, say it often.