Just wondering how a person feels before and after they get married. Some people say you get a sense of ‘completion’. But then why marry someone if you aren’t confident within yourself? Or is it a different sort of ‘completion’ that they’re talking about?
Please tell me how complete or incomplete one feels after marriage.
Re: Does marriage 'complete' you?
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Just wondering how a person feels before and after they get married. Some people say you get a sense of 'completion'. But then why marry someone if you aren't confident within yourself? Or is it a different sort of 'completion' that they're talking about?
Please tell me how complete or incomplete one feels after marriage.
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I alwys thought it was a different sort of "completion", based on thr logic that no human being can ever be truly complete on their own.
You're complete because you're no longer a virgin.
I don't know about being complete, but I sure do feel filled these days. tummy pay hath pairtay howay
On a serious note, human beings are social creatures. Those who show they are too independent & solo have psychological issues. So, to have a companion with whom you can share your happiness and sorrow, completes our social needs. If the two encourage each other in good things, the union is blessed otherwise it’s a not a perfect match.
So you do get a sense of fulfillment. Okay thanks. But what if you start feeling claustrophobic.
it does complete you in every manner..physically, emotional, relegiously, and as a human bieng..
ALLAH has created everything in pairs..haven;t u read in QURAN..
as a personal experience..atleast i feel a big gap in my life in everyway, since i'm not married..
i agree with ahmadjee
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Those who show they are too independent & solo have psychological issues. So, to have a companion with whom you can share your happiness and sorrow, completes our social needs.
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I can say the same thing for people who yearn for companionship. They have psychological issues too because they feel incomplete within themselves and are dependent on others for their fulfillment.
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So you do get a sense of fulfillment. Okay thanks. But what if you start feeling claustrophobic.
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Feeling claustrophobic sometimes is as natural as feeling intimate at other times. Our emotional level is not meant to be linear but a sine curve. That’s why we have different seasons, sweet & salty tastes, sunshines & dark nights.
FG: Sure you can.
all these marriage and relationship threads here are scaring me....does it have to do anything with FG becoming the mod here?
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FG: Sure you can.
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ye kya baat huee. debate kaa mood nahee?
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all these marriage and relationship threads here are scaring me....does it have to do anything with FG becoming the mod here?
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Don't be scared 'chanda'. You will still sttract all the boys.
hmmm cat i think it does complete u, n it is also supposed to complete ur eemaan, that is, your faith
hmmm...i was talking abt this to one of my best friends who recently got married and asked her how she feels differently...and she was like marriage leaves less uncertainty in ur life...i mean, being single how exactly do u envision ur future? there's a big question mark there coz u dont know who u'll get married to n what u r gona do with ur life...once u're married u know all that, so a big puzzle has been solved in ur life...in fact prolly the biggest puzzle of ur life has been solved...and u can start planning things and wholeheartedly have a mission in ur life and truly devote urself to a cause: the happiness of ur family, the bringing up of ur kids..warna, before marriage what is the mission of ur life? like fine, do well in school, be a good daughter/sister etc but then what? i mean, that sense of long term direction n purpose in life is kinda missing isnt it? the way human beings r made i dont think success can ever give us real happiness unless we have ppl who truly care for us to share it n it affects others whom u care abt positively...and friends can share ur happiness but not the same way family can...
plus even ur family before marriage is ur family but the one after marriage is really ur true family...i think it gives u a real sense of being and belonging...
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On a serious note, human beings are social creatures. Those who show they are too independent & solo have psychological issues.
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i agree to dat
FUnguy is right. If you need someone else to make you feel complete then you are taking away from their completion. 1+1=3 not 2 in marriage.
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i agree to dat
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and I remember reading in one of your posts how you want to remain single.
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i agree to dat
well i dont. as in i dont particularly covet a single lifestyle, and hate the smartassy *ty idea about being da indepent and strong career woman and stuff laikin, there can often be a lot to life than wanting to belong. being on yr own can give a high of its own. its all in personal choice and mental makeup, and circumstances as well. laikin its a very myopic to think yr traditional family is all how a life can be lived. lifes open to every **** possiblity.
matsui, you are WRONG.
1 + 1 = 7 (in Southeast Asia)
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matsui, you are WRONG.
1 + 1 = 7 (in Southeast Asia)
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1+1 = 11 if you're Sardarjee....
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well i dont. as in i dont particularly covet a single lifestyle, and hate the smartassy *ty idea about being da indepent and strong career woman and stuff laikin, there can often be a lot to life than wanting to belong. being on yr own can give a high of its own. its all in personal choice and mental makeup, and circumstances as well. laikin its a very myopic to think yr traditional family is all how a life can be lived. lifes open to every ***** possiblity.
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Ummm, okaaaaaay.