Re: Does making tea for your susraal make you a ghar damaad?
Well my MIL and her brother came over yesterday and my wife was too busy talking to her Mum and mamoo so I thought I’d make a cup of tea for them.
When my saas and her bhai left my phopo made a fuss about it to my mum that she hadn’t taught her son to act like a man. She called me a jhoru ka ghulam and what not. But what surprised me the most was when she said I had become my susraal’s tabeydar (“abhi sei hogaya unka chamcha”) and I was being a ghar damaad? Not that I see anything wrong with the idea of a ghar damaad (not that I want to be one, lol) but I don’t see how making a small cup of tea for your saas makes you a ghar damaad. Nor am I a “Jhoru ka ghulam”. My mama just told me and my wife to never mind. “Abida baaji ko to aadat hai batey bananay ka”.
Note: I have been born and brought up in the West, but I understand the culture of Pakistan since I have been raised in a very traditional family. Have been recently married.
tell your phupo that you made tea for a ghar ayee mehman … someone who is your elder , who also happened to be your MIL. Tell her that your culture and your religion tells you to treat mehmaan and elderly with kindness and nothing “joru ka ghulaam” about it.