Does making tea for your susraal make you a ghar damaad?

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Re: Does making tea for your susraal make you a ghar damaad?

@Insaaniyat

Well my MIL and her brother came over yesterday and my wife was too busy talking to her Mum and mamoo so I thought I’d make a cup of tea for them.
My phopo was here too and when she saw me in the kitchen making tea for my susraal she was a wee bit annoyed seeing her bateeja doing what she called auraton ka kaam and that too for my susraal.

When my saas and her bhai left my phopo made a fuss about it to my mum that she hadn’t taught her son to act like a man. She called me a jhoru ka ghulam and what not. But what surprised me the most was when she said I had become my susraal’s tabeydar (“abhi sei hogaya unka chamcha”) and I was being a ghar damaad? Not that I see anything wrong with the idea of a ghar damaad (not that I want to be one, lol) but I don’t see how making a small cup of tea for your saas makes you a ghar damaad. Nor am I a “Jhoru ka ghulam”. My mama just told me and my wife to never mind. “Abida baaji ko to aadat hai batey bananay ka”.

Note: I have been born and brought up in the West, but I understand the culture of Pakistan since I have been raised in a very traditional family. Have been recently married.

Ignore these typical aunts and live your life happily. Such aunts are really capable of playing with other’s relationships! I say.. avoid her in the future too and ask your mother to avoid her too..BECAUSE.. if she sees you are ignoring her, she will try to “kaan bharing” your mom… and aurat aik aurat ke jaal main aa hi jaati hay!!