is it possible?
you love someone and then all of a sudden they have sudden change of heart and they ask you to be their friend and talk like a friend, no more love and they still expect you to spend most of your time with them (chatting ofcourse) just like you used to.
All that without any valid reason or circumstances.
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
:hinna:
dont think too much pereshan .. U are already Pereshan enough 
Btw who did that to ya 
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
pareshan0,
for someone wanting to changing a relationship to friendship level, from a sense of committed ness to now being buddies, is murky. the reason is that again such a person can come to you anytime and say, well i want to be back in a relationship to you and lets get married and so forth.
the first time when someone deserts you, you feel that their inaptness caused you to see your truthful nature as nothing, even through they empowered the other person and that person is aware of that benefit.
yet, now in case of that person being so self righteous in making the decision for what ever reason, to keep the friendship instead, what you can do is this: without feeling attached, be well wishing to the person. in that you are taking a higher road. and you can take it without ever feeling guilty or dealt out.
as far as a reason for that behavior is concerned, know that people have a very brittle and hollow heart that only knows how to take and never how to give back. they are needy people. and you dont want a needy person to depend on neediness. u let them be. and u will see that they will still be unhappy. as a caring person, u can still support them through their search for what they really want and whom they really want to settle.
aside from the bitter diappointment that they cause themselves and then cause their partner, such people are at a loss of mental peace, sadly.
u cant force someone to like you or be yours.
instead this should happen naturally. and the other person must be honest.
this dangle between partnership vs. friendship has two totally different meanings.
and once the friendship is asked for, going back to partnership is impossible and very hard. you dont want anyone to mistreat you as a playdough!
you cant allow anyone to shape you any which way that person wants or does, simply does to get rid of their own sense of insecurity and lack of reasonable control over own life.
noone should be second best for anyone. neither a man nor a woman. people in arranged or self searched or sudden relationships, who have a mentality like that, to go through the current available inventory of humans infront of them, are never going to be fgood people to be with.
someone whose heart is bigoted and who is a hypocrite, you dont want to spend your life with that person, no?
no need to chat away, to speak to such a person, to fulfill such a person's very selfish need for feeling important.
it hurts to know someone u care for is suffering this way and other ways duet to their mistakes, but u must know that they chose to be that way. and only they can re choose to be on the right way.
for your own sake, u just make sure that u wont ever turn into someone as fickle as such a person.
and if that person realizes that and says an admittance to this, just be kind and leave it at that, because then u have taught that person honesty and self awareness.
both women and men need to set integrity higher in order to allow someone to become closer to you and then nobly marry that person soon after that court-ship period. because that is where someone can win your respect, trust and cnfidence as well as becom loyal and sincerely wish to be with you for life.
best,
Dushwari
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
i know that if you are best best frends and then later fall inlove or get maried. and when you have a fite and dont talk for days.the only thing ull miss the most is the frendship that you had with that person and how u can talk about anything.
so i dont think you should worry too much. cuz if u love that person whom is ur best person the frendship comes through the most in the end.
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
hmm i agree...but i think two best buddies shuld never fall in luv...never ever..have u heard dat thing..that a husband is jst a husband nt ur friend...so keep that in mind ..and dnt worry too much abt it....!!
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
No its NOT possible.
Friendship can convert to love but love never converts to friendship.
(Unless both totally get over with it i.e. found new love)
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
Totally impossible. One person or the other will constantly live in false hopes that it may go back to the way it was, hence putting a strain on their "friendship"
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
aww acha to is liye pareshan ho:@:
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
No its NOT possible.
Friendship can convert to love but love never converts to friendship. (Unless both totally get over with it i.e. found new love)
absolutely agree with you. It just never happens
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
ek larki ne 
jee haan, yehi samajh lein 
thanx everyone for great replies! you guys really made me feel better 
and dushi aapi, u rock :biggthumb
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
awwa poor u!
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^what a life
i live up to my username 
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
Never happens - but it will ruin a wonderful friendship.
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
is it possible?
you love someone and then all of a sudden they have sudden change of heart and they ask you to be their friend and talk like a friend, no more love and they still expect you to spend most of your time with them (chatting ofcourse) just like you used to.
All that without any valid reason or circumstances.
This is the cheapest thing one would ever ask someone to do. To me, its better to part the ways then being this loudsy.
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
is it possible?
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Dude stop listening to girls.
They alway have this idea.
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
Heres the thing...i reckon if you were best friends and then you end up together...its possible to break up and be friends...my friend sees his girlfriend as his friend first cos thats what they were for ages...
I think its hard especially in terms of moving on but it can be done...
I persoanlly have never had such problems...i dont do this friends then lovers business...so in a lot of ways it makes it easier to break of all ties at the end...
Re: Does love end in friendship ?
They say nothing is impossible...but unfortunately I have to say this must be impossible.