Re: Does it really matter
i dont thing we(as a new generation) think its bad becuse we believe our self and our partner but still being desi our parents usually try to run our life and make all the decision from the day 1.... i am not saying whether we right or they are wrong but still i think there are few reasons why they think its not a good idea.
girls gets mature earlier than guys, thats why 17 yr old girl with 30 yr old man looks just fine.
being a mature girl/woman they look more older than guys if they both are same age then chances are they will look older than guys, unless they care about themselve all their life which mostly pakistani women dont do as they are always busy doin house chores and raisin their kids and alot of times working too.
IF a man is older than a woman that means she has to give him more respect and do what he tells her to do (as what mostly pakistani woman do) and man in our society always like to have a hold in the family and he is the one who makes the most important decision rather than woman taking control over the house and do what she thinks is the best. but if woman is older than a man... whats gonna happen.. if he is also a typical desi guy who likes his wife to stay under him then offcourse she might not like it... she is older.. she is more mature than a guy she atleast want equality and this is where the conflicts begin...
Even in Islam, God give man more power and strength than a woman.. why is that? becuase he has the responsibility to take care of the wife,
and in todays world we are competing against man in every field so that we can prove that womans can do everything that a man is doing. but in reality we can never go ahead of mans... womans are also human they also think. they might say that since i am older that means he has to do what i tell him to do as well.. and he might not like it...
but i think it all depends on the understanding they have in their relationship.. BUT do u think all love marriages are successfull??? NOOOOOOOOOOO... alot of time people change after some time.. in order to make the marriage sucessfull womans are suppose to make more sacrifices than mans... thats why in my opinion its better for a girl to marry someone who is older than him otherwise it would be tough... because mostly your own ego will come to play :)
what i said is based on what i have seen in real life.. it doesnt reflect the entire community so please dont get offended...
Personally. i would never marry someone who is younger than me... because the respect i can give my husband who is older than me, i can never give the same thing to the guy who is younger than me.. its not that i dont respect young people but in a relationship i wont be like the same.