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paksitani guys : it would be prefferred if hes a virgin but it will be accepted if hes not ocnisidering this day and age and considering its hard neough to find life partner as it is why make it harder .. n knowing guys are immature and there ist oo much modernism in htis world now
paksitani girls: she HAS to be a virgin whther the guy si or not .. no matter how modern the outside owrld is ..
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If he hid it...I'd have a problem.
If he was honest...no problem.
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Unless beeb told - you wouldn't even know for a starter .... whether he or she is a virgin or not !
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It shouldnt. The thing is, most of the people, after having found the right partner in their life, repent in their hearts of hearts, for their earlier moral weaknesses and lapses, even if they are not brave enough to talk about it with their SO's. We all are human beings after all. If the chief end is repentence and correction, why should the past matter anyway?
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One of my friend dumped her potential because he told her dat he had sex with with his ex-girlfriend. From wat i know he was a good guy and said he has "repented" of his past but she couldn't get over it. So again: What would you do?.
I was married for a few months to this girl who wasn't a virgin, I use to get tortured by imagining her with another man. Talk about inner demons. It didn't happen all the time, but when it would hit me, it would hit hard. I was shocked by how much it bothered me, as I didn't expect it to bug me so much.
After we separated (for other reasons) , I realized I could only marry a girl who hadn't been with anyone or in any sort of relationship before.
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I was married for a few months to this girl who wasn't a virgin, I use to get tortured by imagining her with another man. Talk about inner demons. It didn't happen all the time, but when it would hit me, it would hit hard. I was shocked by how much it bothered me, as I didn't expect it to bug me so much.
After we separated (for other reasons) , I realized I could only marry a girl who hadn't been with anyone or in any sort of relationship before.
what if you were married to a widow or a khula-yafta woman , would it still bother you that much ...
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I was married for a few months to this girl who wasn't a virgin, I use to get tortured by imagining her with another man. Talk about inner demons. It didn't happen all the time, but when it would hit me, it would hit hard. I was shocked by how much it bothered me, as I didn't expect it to bug me so much.
After we separated (for other reasons) , I realized I could only marry a girl who hadn't been with anyone or in any sort of relationship before.
Did she talk about it with you? Or you just assumed it because she might not have bled?
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After we separated (for other reasons) , I realized I could only marry a girl who hadn't been with anyone or in any sort of relationship before.
I know you are trying to make sacrifices, but what if the goat gets away and you couldn't find a virgin anywhere! :D
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It shouldn't. Especially, If the guy/girl repents.
We shouldn't judge or disqualify a Muslim potential based on this. Not mentioning how the rejection might not please Allah swt the mostest for looking down upon his people. It is afterall between them and Allah swt.
^ My opinion.
2 people truly in love.
Woman: Are you a virgin?.
Man: No I'm not.
Woman: Okay.
Woman: Ive gotta go (and she chooses not to return for months, the man doesn't complain)
Woman (8 months later): I'm sorry. I shouldn't have judged you out based on your past one incident.
Man: I don't blame you, as it is completely understandable in the end. However, I'm sorry for being a major cause for your disappointment.
Woman: Its fine. Friends again?
Man: Yes.
The two get back to exactly where they left. Another thing, the two couldn't work it out after being together for 3 years. But the reason (s) to call it quits was anything but the one incident the guy was involved in.
Moral of this very true story? (Atleast to me)
Allah swt does not disappoint, no matter how hard it seems to us in the beginning. The man chose to wait for the girl while she was gone. The girl on the other hand (Both against arranged marriages) was not able to find someone better (minus the one incident) during her time away.
Would you rule out a 3rd party influence/power in there somewhere? I didn't/wouldn't.
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@ Naabigh](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/members/naabigh.html) …do u think ur idea is justifying her/him who is not virigin …but there is a reason of Widow or Khula Yafta woman its just like slaughter of an animal if u slaughter an animal as per sayings of Islam or just shoot an animal.. if u slaughter an animal its ok coz its Hilal if u just shoot with a Gun its will be Haram… just like this If u marry a Widow or Khula Yafta woman our society accepts but if one knows he/she is like that who will accept??? wts the answer of this according to u?
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I wouldn't care if he was a virgin its pretty meh to me lol.
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Did she talk about it with you? Or you just assumed it because she might not have bled?
Well she was married before she met me (for 4 months) and she lived with the guy, so nothing needed to be said.
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what if you were married to a widow or a khula-yafta woman , would it still bother you that much ...
Well I can only speak for myself, regardless of her status it would bother me. Even though I knew that she (my ex wife) not being a virgin was totally normal (she was married and lived with a guy for 4 months, so obviously she won't be a virgin), I still have to admit to the fact that imagining her with another man was absolute mental torture. I would be lying to myself if I didn't admit that.
I tried so hard to avoid thinking about it, but sometimes thoughts just pop into your head that you would rather not see. It did get better over time, but it was always there lurking in the back of my mind.
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I know you are trying to make sacrifices, but what if the goat gets away and you couldn't find a virgin anywhere! :D
Well I just made a lot of dua to get a good wife, the kind that I wanted and Alhamdullilah things worked out well for me.
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@ EDAL.. dear its just a thinking either she is a virgin or not coz obviously non of the girls remain virgin after marry.. and after marry virgin girl will be like other one but as we think it so its make us feel bad...
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^ Could you rephrase that? I didn't pick up what you were trying to say.
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If a person is a virgin themselves then they have every right to want it, if however they aren't then its hypocrisy.
Saying that as long as a person gives another love who cares
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If he hid it...I'd have a problem.
If he was honest...no problem.
and how would you konw if he is really honest or just admiting it to impress you? since all guys know gal will like an honest answer.
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What? 
All guys like honesty too.
Using your logic a guy can never win. If he tells you he’s doing it to impress you, if he doesn’t then he’s a liar.
Ok.
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