Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

[Reha]

re: Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

@Exodus

I don’t quiet get it. On one side, you’re truly admitting (me too) that one’s past does tend to come out eventually. On the other hand you’re also suggesting how one’s past is supposed to be done and dusted with. According to that thought, I’d be destined to be grilled If God forbid my past was to come out at some point of time down the road, which again it (past) most probably will.

To some. Past is also considered to be the pinnacle force behind making them a better person in the end. You learn from your mistakes, which of course you do while keeping them at the back of your head and not by burying them down like they never happened.

Holding on to your past successes and mentioning them whenever one feels appropriate is supposed to be alright. I think our mistakes also deserve some respect in this very regard. And no, I’m not suggesting we should go about mentioning them irrelevantly or to anyone (except one) for that matter. Just keep them intact within you is where I’d be laying my emphasis on.

Pardon my ignorance/intelligence or lack of. No offense intended in the end.

What I meant is simply that deceiving someone or lying to them does no good because eventually things come to light. Its best to be honest with each other, discuss it if need be and bury it for good.

I am against the unnecessary arguments based on someone’s history.

@FairyTale

What i have seen, in practical life, even if the guy or gal had admitted it all honestly before they tied the knot, it came up again and again during arguments. The relationship never grew stronger. I think it would be good if he/she does not share, and bury it along with the past, that is IFFF he/she really has changed and repented from the depth of heart.

If he/she chooses not to share…there’s nothing anyone can do. Can they? Its their call. I do believe that being open about everything brings a certain relief to the relationship. This person will now love you knowing everything about you. That’s what I’d want. I wouldn’t want them to love an image of me…its got to be the real me.

Oh and I’ve also known couples who were honest about everything and nothing bad came out of it. They forgot it even happened.