Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

[S_Punk]

Re: Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

@EDAL

Again show me where I stated I disrespected her for her “past”, or held it against her personally? Further her “past” was not the reason for breakup, it had nothing to do with it as far as I am concerned.

Before I met her she was married for 4 months, obviously she will sleep with her husband, she did nothing wrong, that’s kind of a “duhhh” thing. It would be logically impossible to hold that against her, nor did she hide anything from me.

What I stated was a mere admission of reality. After I started living with her and my feelings for her grew more intense, there were random times when the thought of another man with her would really pain me. It’s not as if I argued with her or yelled at her about it (what is there to argue about? It was her husband).** I kept it to myself but in my heart I felt deep agony/pain/jealousy that another man was with her, and I wished I had been the first one to meet her**.

Now after we went our separate ways (again for other reasons), I said to myself that never will I put myself through that kind of agony again. That’s all. I can’t handle the thought of my wife with another man, it hurts me way too much, too many unwanted mental images.

You pretty much are disrespecting her by letting that thought be an issue, accept it or not. She was honest with you, and rather than respect her honesty and move on…like you stated, at many times it caused you agony and pain. Now, I don’t know about you, but when I respect someone for their honesty (especially a spouse)…jealousy/anger etc shouldn’t be an issue, right? Cos they were honest with me.

And really dude, do you honestly think your current wife doesn’t feel some sort of anguish when she thinks of your past? Like, dead-serious, do you think she’s all happy-go-lucky in her head with you cos you were honest? =/