Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

[Ghost14]

re: Does it matter if someone you want to marry is a virgin or not?

@khattichic

So does that include women who are divorced or widowed?

I’m not arguing that this particular point of view does not exist, but the hypocrisy of it all is sickening.

As a mother of 3 boys, you sure as heck better believe that I am raising them to the same lofty, high standards that are impressed upon girls. Far too often I see parents worrying about having “the talk” with their daughters, and stressing out over the threat of unplanned pregnancies, god forbid…from the the time of puberty, my mom ingrained in head “larkiyon ki izzat unkay haat may rehti hai”…well, I’m pounding that into my sons as well as soon as the time comes.. **“larkon ki bhi izzat unkay haaton main hai”, **they better not EVER role in here thinking that they are somehow excused from the bad stigma of losing their virginity, because as far as I know, it takes two to tango…the same moral evils that apply to girls apply to guys as well.

I can only do my best to try to instill morals and values in them. After a certain age, their life is in their own hands, however, just having the Y chromosome does not exempt them from cherishing/guarding their sexuality/virginity.

While I agree with you, the double standard exists because of issues of paternity. Even in this day and age, there are men who are tricked into raising children that are not their own. Modesty was desired in women because it makes it more likely that the man will not be tricked into raising someone else’s children. It sounds shallow and crude but that’s evolution. Humans practiced polygyny for thousands of years, and women who were faithful were desired.

Again, I agree with you, but you can’t undo hundreds of thousands of years of social conditioning in a few hundred years.