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nikkah between shia and sunni is valid
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minah-pa, when it comes to taking islamic advice i would always want to be very careful that the person was knowledgable enough to give advice, (everyone seems to b an Alim nowadays) and i would want that advice to be rooted in the Quran and the authenticated hadees.
I am going to be very careful with my wording here becuase i do not want to cause offence but from what i have seen there are some(not all) sects whose practice differs so much from my own beliefs and values that i would find it difficult to reconcile taking such a person as a life partner.
At the end of the day I have enough difficulties just trying to be a muslim, without complicating it with sectarian issues.
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Minah - in my opinion if u call urself a muslim u ARE a muslim, if you say you are married u ARE married.
I have genuine freinds of all faiths and sects but I would not choose a husband whose values and beliefs I could not live with. As Faisal said this is a totally personal opinion.
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Thank you Serendipiti. Though it does surprise me a bit. I am a Roman Catholic and our rituals in church are a bit different from Greek Orthodox or mainstream Catholic, but the values and the beliefs are the same. I may have to learn a new way of taking the sacrement or another worded response in another church, but the teachings are the same. Maybe that is why I couldn't understand why such a division. I thought the teachings and values would be the same, just the ritual would be different.
I guess all of this comes down to tolerance and belief. With my husband being a Muslim and myself a Christian, we have very different ways of praying and different ways of showing our devotion, but the values seem to be the same.
When I had children with my first husband (he was also Sunni Muslim, large community here), it was decided between the two of us that they would be raised Muslim. My belief is that there are many paths to God, each designed to bring as many people as possible to him, so I think I was a bit more flexible than he was about the religious thing. After he passed, my second husband took over that responsibility.
Takes a bit of compromise, some tolerance during religious holidays, but it works.
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I am not saying it can't work, indeed I have examples infront of me that work very well. It really depends on both the individuals involved and their beliefs.
I don't care about race or status but in terms of beliefs I would want my life partner to share my beliefs. As i stressed, it is only in marriage that I believe it is important for me.
In your case, you shared the same values and agreed important things at the outset so it works but there are cases where values can differ.
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If the parents are serious about their religion then this scenario will never occur. Real issues will also surface when kids stat growing up. Naturally, the kids will gravitate to the parent who is more serious about his/her sect.
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This is for non-muslims about the fundamental difference between Shia and Sunni(mainstream)
Note: this is according to official beliefs of basics, and not trivial issues.
First the basic similarities:
both believe in one Allah, Prophet Muhammad :saw: to be last prophet and all the main teachings of Islam.
The difference
Shia believe that after the death of Prophet :saw: the guidance and obedence is ordained upon the noble family of Prophet Muhammad :saw: * and no other.
Sunni believe that the family of the prophet :saw: is indeed very noble and best of people, but they are not sinless as prophets. And guidance can be sought from them as well as from the noble companions who spent their life with prophet and followed his teachings.
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Thnx Code Red :)
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Thank you Code_Red.
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You are both welcome any time :)
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Well this is a very touchy subject. Yes I dont think its a very nice idea that Shia and Sunnis shud marry. As these adventures result in long term and some times everlasting nadamat.
So its better that one keep his/her emotions in control before marrying