Re: does caste matter
Agree with DP and ZK did not say anything offensive.
Marriage is life long commitment.
Whatever people feel comfortable with is fine. Don't we have soooooo many requirements which we feel kinda proud of?
On the other hand, educating people to be open to different 'castes' should be promoted.
Only in cases where everything else is compatible, caste difference should not matter. And caste should not be the first thing to look at.
Re: does caste matter
By that token, if larkay walay demand lots of jahez, larki walay should give in....just because its important to them, and can afford it and they're not forcing anyone.
Errr no, First of all, why would you marry your child somewhere where they dont share the same believes/thoughts as you have? ...
You (generally speaking) could marry someone of your own caste if that's important to you but what happens if your child wants to marry someone whose of a different caste? would you force them to marry a loser who just belongs to the same caste like alot of parents who believe in this nonsense do?
what if you want to marry someone and their family makes life hell for you....because you're not the same caste?
So yeah one person can do it out of choice, but when lots of people do one thing out of choice....it becomes a problem in society. and unless your head is in the sand, u can't deny that the caste thing leaves people open to yet more abuse.
I understand what you are saying. But you are mentioning extreme cases here, while i just said that if somebody wants to marry into the same caste, then good for him/her. What will you do about it? What can you do about it? How will you stop people?
Really, i dont care at all who wants to marry who and where and whom they dont wanto marry and why they dont wanto.
Re: does caste matter
obviously caste matters to some people and not at all to some people. i think it matters more on which caste you are a part of. some castes are really into marrying within each other, and some are not. for example, i am memon and with memons everyone usually marries other memons. this is because our caste has quite a number of differences and mindsets and lifestyles. we are such a close knit community that we almosttttt feel like a whole different race to be honest with you. i for one would find it realllllly hard to digest marrying someone that was not memon. i think i would lose my mind because my memon lifestyle and culture has begun to define me and shape me!
now I KNOW a lot of you reading this are like whaaaaa how stupid...but thats just how it is and how i feel. i love being memon and am super proud of it and would want to carry down the memon name for generations to come because we truly have such a rich history mashallah!!
Re: does caste matter
So are Paganism and the act of burning the widow along with her husband's dead body 'Sati'. Get my drift Reha?
I agree with what you're saying though, this whole caste thing is just ridiculous and not to mention un-Islamic.
I know BB, I agree.