does beauty matter after getting married?

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

I think before marriage it matters more ... after that its more of 'Joo Allah ke merzi' :D

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Ahh alien dude who u cheating.

When the pious of the pious of peoples couldnt contain thier feelins for one girl who are we.
Girll.z ......a valuable truth...Beauty Does matter......Fatness is defenitly a no-no

The main weakness guys possess is in Beauty. And Most Guys do place priority in looks going for u in the first instance anyway.

And say you ignore that bit after marriage, and one rainy day a sexy-paki bomb-shell pops infront of ur hubby---Who he just cannot avoid....Like say his co-worker/boss/friend/sister-in-law.....Vwhat will you do....u wud wish at that time he wudnt need to look at her...vudnt u.

A Lil Ugliness i can cope but not a girl who looks like a hot-air-baloon

And it does depend from husband to husband doesnt it...You shud discuss it with your hubby...on his needs...personally i dont think husband and wife shud be shy of discussing anything at all...the honesty and openess about each others expectations is essential as it prevents dissappointments later.
The hubby and wife should share everything..no shyness none whatsoever

And Almighty R.V im sorry in advance you will not like my post and as usual you will be forced to differ.

We can take it outside if that seems a valid alternative to u

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sister in law??? u cant be serious …

lol some guys are sooo full of themselves .. khud jaise Brad Pitt ho. Take a look in the mirror b4 u judge ur wife on her apparence :rolleyes: men should look good for their wives too what if a hot hubba hubba desi hunk pops infront of ur wife ..then what will u do? u’ll wish at that time ur wifey didnt need to look at him, nahi? :hmmm:

@top: I do think it matters :smiley: I’d wanna look good for my hubby if i were married .. all girls love attention and tareefein dont we :stuck_out_tongue:
but then again .. if u love someone they automatically turn beautiful in ur eyes no matter what they look like .. thats just something love does to u :slight_smile:

as for u amir_pindi u act like u can get any girl u want .. lmao .. i bet ur wife/future wifey will be a 10000 times more gorgeous than u.

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lol amir_pindi makes me laugh so u dont want ur wife as a hot air baloon wat happens wen u have a child and she is like that for nine months u gona go and look at some"sexy paki bomb shells in the rain"

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You redvelvet, absolutely ROCK! :wub: Seriously, your the best! :bb:

Amir: Who are you calling dopey oi?! :aq: :kursi:
Leave redvelvet alone, she is absolutely lovely and one of the most helpful members on this whole site. It shouldn’t be a problem if she has different views to you because guess what, thats what this forum is all about.. sharing different views. So no need for the silly titles such as “almighty RV” because c’mon, even kids know better then that! When you write a post in a PUBLIC forum, expect people to disagree with you and as long as they do it respectfully which redvelvet ALWAYS does, there shouldn’t be any problems.. Now, you need to stop being so immature and picking on people who disagree with you:ASA:
And about being hijabi.. :smack: what does that have to do with a topic regarding how a MARRIED woman appears before her HUSBAND?

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

Chipkali the prob with r.v she takes everything seriuosly.

God…sometimes even what people state in threads may not be what they actually totally and always belive…it may be what happens to pop up in thier mind at that time…

and R.V is a very respectable person, but has to refute everything and everywhere. Thats why i gave her the honour of Al-Mighty…and its a friendly nick…
Yeh R.V’s a lovely lady.

C’Mon Chipkali i meant since ur hijabi you dont need to worry since u are always covered anyway

:hehe:

:hehe:

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

Silly Girls upstairs...u just dont get me do u.

Im tryin to do u girls a favour of telling you what our unconditonal manly mentalities are....

Im not saying i can get anyone. Infact i ws being very honest in emhapzing no matter how bad or good we ourself are..buts thats what our stupid mentalities are!

Im nt talking abut myself, but being a man i know men will always look at other girls!

And remember girls dont even have the excuse of 4 wives.

And yes i did mean sister-in-law, we men are animals.

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You need to improve your reading skills. Where did I say that a man doesn't like the beauty of a woman? What I said was that If a man marries a woman just because of her outer apperiance i.e. her beauty, it's the wrong reason to marry. A man should marry for her qualities. Not only her outer apperiance. The entire beauty thing is subjective anyway. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all. What might be beautiful to me, is maybe not so beautiful to you.

Now that's just disgusting, your sister in law is supposed to be like a sister to you.

And to answer your question, lower your gaze...

Timepass - June 2013
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you forgot to add “together”

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

Well whatever floats your float aslong as you shower and don’t go around sporting the ‘mast malang’ look:clown:

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alien face dude.

the formal and corny things ur saying..anybody can say...infact those are the ideal attitudes everyman/women should have...but we dont do we.

im trying to give ladies some realistic advice here.

This is the Truth...Ladies u may not...but most men (like 99%), the first criteria at the top of for wife/chic check-list, is...beauty........ If only a girls pic/looks please them, do they take the 'baat' further, otherwise expect some excuse.

This is the truth. So if this is one of the main reasons a man chose u first, it makes sense that he would prefer it to remain after to. And while its true that after marriage love and attarction can develop for other features...and beauty can become less signnificant...

reality-check-----....^ its sounds good...but the reality is also that...men do still like beauty and they always like eye-candy...so unless u can tolerate our eyes gazing freely better u give us somthing that we dnt need to...and im sure a lot of you wud agree that these freely gazing eyes is often the root of further trouble.

and I didnt say a man will defnitly go after his sister-in-law...thats just an example..
alien-face... yes its sick but humans are like that- Read the below evidence.

A man came to the Prophet (pbuh) and asked him about the brother-in-law living in the same house as the married couple.
The Prophet replied:

''The Brother-In-Law is death'' - Sahih Bukhari

Hope i added something useful to this thread..once again its just mi 2 cents...no fatwa or anything.

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Well listen blank face dude, not everyone thinks like you, or behaves the way you do. Every human is an individual, even though some like to be sheeples. So stop generalizing.

BTW, i can sense some FOB mentality in you, are you a FOB by any chance?

Timepass - June 2013
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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

of course one should look good for your spouse…who else should you look good for if not your spouse?? :aq:

if you want the spark to remain in your relationship then you must look well groomed for your spouse (if not totally off the hook HOT!). they may not tell you that you look God awful but im sure they are thinking it when they see you havent taken a shower in 3 days and you are wearing the same clothes at night that you wore all day or vice versa.

I would think that after marriage its even more of a reason for one to look good then before.

Timepass - June 2013
Timepass - June 2013
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:k: i agree…

everyone has their bad days or their lazy days…nothing wrong with that. you can still be in your hideous PJs and look hot (to ur spouse at least)! the imagination (the mind)is a powerful thing :smiley:

Timepass - June 2013
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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

alien face I have no other way to address u as...hope u understand that...

And Wht i said is what the reality is dude, either u admit it or not the truth is we guys rarely comprimise on beauty.

and no im not FOB, are you though?

sorry ur UFO arnt u.

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Don't ve all have a little fobness in us!

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ditto. :k:

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

Beauty is more than surface deep - as PM said, it is a part of who you are.

If your perception of beauty is only surface deep, then eventually (due to age etc) it will go away.

But if you do want to talk only about 'looking' beautiful and not 'being' beautiful, then yes, a lot of desi people have a tendency to gain weight and not take care of themselves after getting married.

I personally like to take care of myself not for my husband (because I know that he loves me for the right reasons) but for myself. So the motivation did not go away after the wedding. I like to be healthy and work out etc because thats who I am.

So if people only take care of themselves and look nice because they care what others think, then the chances of those things changing once they've 'achieved their goal' i.e. found a husband, then yes - looks will matter less.

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Ok not all men are animals, just pathetic men like u.

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Re: does beauty matter after getting married?

Well if you should try to look nice in front of your wife whats the whole point of marrying? Shouldn't she suppose to be accepting you for the way i am? Personally i plan to keep a massive beard when i get married just for the fun on it and like shave in months! If my wife tells me to shave i wont cause she should know what kind of person i am and not to whore me out in front of public! and her self too for that matter. Since we're both stuck with each other for kingdom come lets just relax and think about taking a shower later yeah?