Re: Does anybody know a playa/flirty person that's settled now?
players don't change, exactly. as long as they are players.
players stop being players.
Now what you have to see if whether it was someone who was casually seeing girls who could be very different from what he says he is looking for in a serious relationship which he is now ready for. If that is the case, still proceed with caution but it may just be the case.
Look..I had no intention of dealing with desi families, abba jis, bhai sahibs, uncle hazraat, cousins, whoever.. so local desi girls were really off my radar back in the day. The ones who were on the radar were the ones who also were really not looking for anything serious. why make it hard for yourself, where the other person has to sneak around, has umpteen restrictions, or is really looking for something serious.
Now, if you are instead dealing with someone who is looking more for conquests and is going to lie about himself, or intentions and fool someone, that is a con artist, and I would advise to stay completely clear. I think this group is a minority
third class of players is the majority, these are people who are not open about their past or even hint that they had a past. So now, you let your guard down because munna sharif is not playa, and then guess what happens, you get played or you find out how he is after you are hooked up.
There is a huge difference between the types. If i were to advise someone, I would say proceed with caution. also, just because you don't know about someone's past, does not mean he does not have one, and the one who actually has to hide, probably has more of a reason to hide.
and from my perspective, If u want to be safe, steer clear anyways, and for friends who are going for either of the 3 types i noted, warn them.
I know begum got warned by her cousins who lived 2 freakin states away that I was a player :D cuz it appears I was a supah-playa with a rep that crossed stateliness..
well actually her bros fiancé who was pals with her cousins was the source of the warning.
Luckily begum was more sure about my sincerity than her family. So now for the kicker...I did raise the point that I did not go to desi events. in undergrad i met girls who came to my fraternity parties, and in b-school it was all uni parties at clubs. So..the only way I would have me someone would be at one of those events. You know how right I was? the chica who blamed me of being a playa and tried to end the whole thing between begum and myself...well, she ended up walking away from my bro in law, because she had a boyfriend on the side :D she had hid her past..and maybe I did run into her at one of those things.
ahhhhh life.. amusing isn't it?
and just so you don't think I am an anomaly, everyone, desi or non desi in my gang who could be considered a playa are settled and are happy, none of them make a secret of their past, they may not go into details but they don't hide and pretend to not have a past. The challenges I have seen are where someone hides it, again, because either they have a reason to hide it, or because the person who gets hooked up has different views about who they are.
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