Does a woman's career always come second?

[Southie]

Re: Does a woman’s career always come second?

@Zafra

The reason I mention, cooking and cleaning is because you are a princess. Most men these days with your supposed lifestyle do help around the house. Moreso that they take an equal share in the responsibilities. If your husband is rich enough to have servants he most likely also has the tarbeyeet to take care of his father himself, where he would do things for him when he is home.

Secondly a life companion is someone you can trust to put the parents needs before her own.

Asking someone to stay with your father is a sign of trust and respect. Its a sign of family. Would you ask some random stranger to help out with your father if needed? Nope. You would ask someone you trust to take good care of your father.

Secondly I am sorry regardless of what your affluence may suggest, servants are paid employees. They do not take care of an aging parent the way family does. If you think otherwise you need some serious help.

And this is certainly not a love marriage, because the simple fact is that you two don’t agree on the most basic issues about family life. Stuff like this is discussed ad nasuem before marriage.

Marriage is about two specific people. You and him. How your sisters business venture where you are an employee factors more importantly in your marriage is beyond me.

Another extremely important point in case of a point where family needs help Pakistani businesses and employers are extremely lax and forgiving. They will give paid time off if a father or mother is sick. So your selfish idea that your customers come first is actually what men do to their wives.

Think of it this way. As a woman you ask your husband to take a few days if required to take care of your aging father or mother and he responds by saying I can’t do so as my work is a bigger priority.

That is life1 drama thread material right there. That is the hypocrisy you all indulge in on a regular basis. If a man would say exactly what you are saying, that his work comes before your parents and their needs, you would all be having a ***** fit now.

Looks like you have brought your A game along in making up things.