do you tell your spouse everything that happens in your own family..

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ok ok, well todays his day off, hes sitting in front of me playing playstation( yesss again,,,,) anyway so i casually asked him, and he didnt ask how i knew or where i got idea from, i then waffled on about how his mum mentioned it ages agoooooo, ( which she kinda did but not about this particular rishta) and how it was just mentioned,dont think he really heard me, game jo khel ra tha, anyway he just said key log puchtey rehtey hai, log aatey jaatey hai, nothing final yet, and hes not too sure either,he seemed normal, not panicy like me, maybe i was overreacting....

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ya of course u verrr ... over reacting :@:

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Nadz :hinna: You’re over-analyzing things and over-reacting to everything… I wish you also played video games, then you would be too pre-occupied to even think about these things :stuck_out_tongue:

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^ I think that's a great idea. ask your hubby how to play and you guys can play together.

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I just dont see why it matters if your SIL got a rishta or not...who it is...why it came...if its serious...blah blah blah. Unnecessary tension for a matter that is none of your business.

Your job is simply to be happy for your SIL if things work out, look nice on the wedding festivities and be supportive.

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Agree.

Join your husband in playing the video games…ask him to teach you if you’re not familiar with them. Considering how tense things have been…this can be a great way for you both to “bond.” He might even think it’s hot.

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Learn to play Call of Duty with him, then you can dishum dishum him if you're angry (in the game dishum)

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^LOL, its a great way to get the aggression out :hehe:
I would recommend Street Fighter IV… lots of fun … especially if you can beat the crap out of him (ahem, that is … his character in the game) :cb:

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Kia point hy redness...

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i dont think she needs video games... she is having a baby. i think thats gaming enough for her.

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no u were not. shaid wo kuch chuppa reha ho. may be the sil n mil told him not to tell u. may be they r scared of ur evil eye...well may be....

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So after all these 2-3 pages, do we have a consolidated list of what I can tell my begum and what I cant? :faizy:

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ok ok, well anyway he phoned home today, in front of me, he spoke to his sister, she was going on about the rishta, and he wasnt hiding anything, he spoke normally,i was there, she was concerned about few things and he was reassuring her, so he himself wasnt hiding it, and i dnt think anyone told him to, otherwise he wouldve not spoken in front of me, but then when he said ok here let me give fone to nadz, shes here..the sis mustve realised i had heard the whole convo, although we get along, shes nice and all, maybe she didnt want me to know everyhting so soon, well thats my assumption cos his reaction to whatever she said was like she said something about me being thereand he was saying `so what? maybe he didnt see the big deal in me hearing.

anyway i then asked him affter, did she mind, he said no she jusr nervous cos everyone knows, as in in pakistan, her dads telling everyone and shes bit scared etc etc understandble.

i think he was trying to keep my heart, dil rakhney ke liye he said nahi of course she doesnt mind, bas shes scared, but i know she mustve said something once she realised he spoke in front of me.

so thats that.

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Yup, that's that.

Your MAIN concern or fear was that your husband was hiding things from you. Now, you can put that suspicion to rest....as you've learned that this wasn't the case. Don't let the sister's behavior or doubts about her "having said something"..........get under your skin now. The person you have more of a relationship with is your husband. If your sister doesn't feel 100% comfortable in sharing with you.....so be it. She's not obligated to. With her immediate family, it's different. And it's not like you'll never know about her rishta in the event it is finalized.
If it is......wish her well......look forward to dressing up and celebrating. Don't let the little things like who shared and who is hiding things......and who gave what gift and who didn't.......get to you. Let some things slide and look at the bigger picture. If for the most part.....the overall relationship with in-laws is civil...then it's better to let the small things go (as you can't change the person). Seems you feel better...good that things turned out okay :)