Re: Do you forgive or forget?
It depends. I have only had to face one person in my life who did impact me in many ways by the things she did wrong with me. She gave me a lot of crap & by crap I mean really bad stuff throughout many years. From stealing my makeup during hs days (petty little thing) to actually giving me something where I could have lost my eyes she has done some good harm to me in the past. I have forgiven her, only because I realized she probably had insecurity issues back then. And also because couple of years back I went through an experience where it finally occurred to me that life is too short to hold permanent grudges with anyone. God forbid I don’t wanna die or face a situation where the offensive person passed away while I still had negative feelings for them.
I talk to the person mentioned above on monthly sometimes weekly basis. Almost every time I talk to the person I am reminded of the things she has done to me but whatever was in the past was in the past & in present and future I know I have to and will be careful.
To sum it up you can definitely completely forgive the person without forgetting the incident.