So out of plain curiousity, do guppies have close relationships with family members their parents seriously do not get on with? Does your relationship with those family members strain your personal relationship with your parents?
If there are any married guppies around can I ask, do you deal with any in-laws who clearly do not deal with your partner because your parent in laws do deal with them?
I’ve recently had a conversation with someone who says they deal with aunts/uncles who don’t speak to her mother (and never have done).
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My parents have always expected my siblings and I to maintain a respectful relationship with relatives and family friends.......even if things may be a bit strained b/w them and my parents.
While I may be annoyed with the relatives for offending my parents....I don't bring up the issues with them. It's between them and my parents....I prefer not to get involved and just keep the relationship cordial. I'm not that close to many of them anyways, lol.
I think one can do the basics (greeting, how are you, ask after the family, polite farewell) and still be "loyal" to their parents and spouse. These are neutral comments/questions...that don't really reflect partiality.
Women are fire...... 90% disputes arise when they pump husbands against someone....
When parents don't speak to relatives......wise kids try to sort things out... however, it depends how severe the issue is.....
Aurat ka kaam jaltee per tel dalna hai..... uss nay mother kee side leni hai zahir hai narazgee mei....
Very few wise women out there who sort things out.....
Not all women (and heck seriously not 90% are classed as the bickering type who go around pumping their husbands). Why would 90% do that? What do 90% have to achieve from that ?There are women out there who may get a kick out of causing problems, but 90%?! What does that say about the men they are married to? Can they not think for themselves?
I find your 90% hard to agree with, because in my own experience men are just as bad as women as doing the stirring.
Anyhow, can we stick to the subject at hand, rather than pinning the invisable blame on one sex over the other. We are talking about if there are any guppies on here who have a relationship of any kind with family/people their parents/spouse do not deal with.
well it depends u know on how bad the relationship is.....
One thing i believe is u never take it out on the kids...even if I hate someone, i will do my best to treat their child with love n rspect
What would you do if say family that don't deal with your husband are quite nasty towards your children (e.g. making comments such as 'those clothes are from last years trends don't your parents dress you nicely'). Although your nice to their children, if they cannot do the same would you struggle to be nice to their kids?
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I keep it cordial so all I ever say is Salam and ask how they are. My whole family is full of freaks and biatches lol so if I were to avoid them then i'd be avoiding everyone. Most of them just sit and talk crap about people which hurts sometimes. However, I still make sure I don't blank them out =)
What would you do if say family that don't deal with your husband are quite nasty towards your children (e.g. making comments such as 'those clothes are from last years trends don't your parents dress you nicely'). Although your nice to their children, if they cannot do the same would you struggle to be nice to their kids?
I would seriously cut off ties with those people. The second anyone is mean to my child, they will get a chittar from me.
As Sara above said, I’d give them a piece of my mind.
I wouldn’t curse at them…but I would make them feel “really small” by pointing out how pathetic they are that they need to pick on innocent little children to make themselves feel better about unresolved issues with adults. Say something like “Taking out last year…last season’s…trendy issues and grudges on the innocent kids eh? How low can you stoop.”
I wouldn’t encourage my kids to talk back to the offensive adults. And I wouldn’t want them to be surrounded by such people. I’d keep my kids away from them.
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^ as it should be!
i have heard way too many unfortunate incidents where ppl have abused or mistreated or just been plain nasty to children, and the parents just stood by and let it happen! Parents like that are just despicable!
unjustified behavior towards kids must be taken seriously.....
parents responsibility is to polish child's behavior and teach etiquettes.
Difference between U.S. and Pakistan
**Pakistan: Children obey their parents
U.S: Parents obey their children**
I love the later one!
Yes, it is the zimaydaari of the parents to teach manners and social etiquette to their children. But you're generalizing.
Relationships aren't black and white. You'll see parents giving in to their children sometimes..... and sometimes kids will be more compliant and other times they're not. Human nature (in either parents or children) is not constant. Such is the case regardless of location.
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@ Sara516
that is the best one!
the success of western countries especially America is based on one word...."Justification"
Every major corporation and airlines are run by young brilliant boys/girls.... only department head is white haired who teaches them "GUR"...... In third world, elders impose themselves...ruining their kids.....
@ redvelvet
You are correct....handling kids requires skills.... fathers know kids inside out (even the daughters), from the day they are conceived till the day they get married...... that is why we are required to follow ISLAMIC rules to have good Aulad...
