any heart break
any bitter lesson
any torment non-closure
any particular sad observation
any confusion
any searching for a clever getting away
discuss!
dushwari
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yes i have learned a very bitter lesson ................ taza hai is liye keh rahi hoon
every friend u find in life is **not **a good friend ,he may look like friend but in reality he may be ur enemy ............ese logon ko pehchana mushkil hai
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k337,
as much as it hurts at the moment, know in your self, that it is a lesson for the other side, also.
who knows how an when they will realize their loss.
wish them well.
thanks for sharing a wise truth.
& do please well in holding yourself strong.
best,
dushwari
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love, after love.
yes
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If you ask me, there are two asupects of love, ones emotional and the other ethical.
If its about the emotion that we call love, then i would say yes, Love after love and then love, I mean its only limited by your will and intensity, all is possible.
But ethically, if i'm committed in a two-way affection going on, then its not possible for me to love someone else.
So i wont try to bend the nature and say that my way of life is natural, i would rather use better words, like commitment and dedication with affection.
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how can you determine that the person who you love and you think that person loves you too, is indeed yours and is not confused about you??
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First of all, the important thing is that, either i like/love him/her or not. If the answer to that is yes.
Then again i'll look for two things, first, either he/she likes to stay with me (the emotional part of the relationship). Secondly his dedication towards the relationship, because as i wrote in previous post, Commitment towards the relationship is as important as the emotional part, and the combination of both are necessary.
Its not at all difficult to find that someone loves you or not, first of all you can see it in the eyes, secondly you can see that how much interest that specific person takes in you and your life, specifically his interest in what you like. How much your opinion matters to him/her. And most importantly, is he/she dedicated to start a serious relationship.
Since a relationship is never a one-way thing, and further its never a bookish thing, because its life, So once i had a good relationship with someone, i wont create doubts, if i don't have alot of good reasons for that.
Even in the presence of some good reasons, i might choose to go on with a relationship, if i like to do so.
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i hope no one EVER ignores the ethics.
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how can you determine that the person who you love and you think that person loves you too, is indeed yours and is not confused about you??
by trusting each other and showing effection and care that how much we love them.
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thank you words,
this is really helpful.
comitted people, even when at odds on minor things or misunderstandings, should talk among thmeleves, but the sad thing is, the other person is missed - i do not know, missing... or not.
thanks, though.
dushwari
First of all, the important thing is that, either i like/love him/her or not. If the answer to that is yes.
Then again i'll look for two things, first, either he/she likes to stay with me (the emotional part of the relationship). Secondly his dedication towards the relationship, because as i wrote in previous post, Commitment towards the relationship is as important as the emotional part, and the combination of both are necessary.
Its not at all difficult to find that someone loves you or not, first of all you can see it in the eyes, secondly you can see that how much interest that specific person takes in you and your life, specifically his interest in what you like. How much your opinion matters to him/her. And most importantly, is he/she dedicated to start a serious relationship.
Since a relationship is never a one-way thing, and further its never a bookish thing, because its life, So once i had a good relationship with someone, i wont create doubts, if i don't have alot of good reasons for that.
Even in the presence of some good reasons, i might choose to go on with a relationship, if i like to do so.
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by trusting each other and showing effection and care that how much we love them.
also makes sense,ume-zareefah, but both have to be present, face to face, to look into each others' eyes and see truth in care and in love.
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Love after love as a human, yes it is possible and happens to everyone. Love for a person or thing keeps on changing based on circumstance and is an ongoing process.
The trouble is that sometime we think it is love whereas it is simply liking, apreciation, lust and attraction. When someone is at this stage he /she starts considering it as love and keeps their expectations high which results in same as you mentioned in your 1st post.
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thanks, people. it all makes sense now.
some are abusers
some are time passers
some are shoppers
some are self justified failures
some are hardened dejected souls due to some gone by loss and trauma
some are cunning
some are mean and wicked
some are behroopiyeye - fraud
some are sick and liars
some are weak
some are kept as slaves
some choose to remain a slave
& some never know what they really want
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First of all, the important thing is that, either i like/love him/her or not. If the answer to that is yes.
Then again i'll look for two things, first, either he/she likes to stay with me (the emotional part of the relationship). Secondly his dedication towards the relationship, because as i wrote in previous post, Commitment towards the relationship is as important as the emotional part, and the combination of both are necessary.
Its not at all difficult to find that someone loves you or not, first of all you can see it in the eyes, secondly you can see that how much interest that specific person takes in you and your life, specifically his interest in what you like. How much your opinion matters to him/her. And most importantly, is he/she dedicated to start a serious relationship.
Since a relationship is never a one-way thing, and further its never a bookish thing, because its life, So once i had a good relationship with someone, i wont create doubts, if i don't have alot of good reasons for that.
Even in the presence of some good reasons, i might choose to go on with a relationship, if i like to do so.
But if you have doubts, then i think one shoudl address it early on! and its better that the doubts are addressed earlier then later anyway! and when one realizes that one is not a good person then i think one should thank thier lucky stars that they were saved from something bad much later!
I think when someone is clearly demonstrating that they are apathetic to the others feelings then that one person should realize should recognize that the other person is not a good person, they should thank thier lucky stars and move on!
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Absolutely possible...you got to be ready to accept it a second time round though....Most of us too hung up on their previous love (me included) and have closed their minds and hearts to what could be out there.
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But if you have doubts, then i think one shoudl address it early on! and its better that the doubts are addressed earlier then later anyway! and when one realizes that one is not a good person then i think one should thank thier lucky stars that they were saved from something bad much later! I think when someone is clearly demonstrating that they are apathetic to the others feelings then that one person should realize should recognize that the other person is not a good person, they should thank thier lucky stars and move on!
Yeah, if there are doubts then they should be addressed, but doubts shouldn't be created. The context of this statement is that sometimes one of the partner can become over-protective or feel overly un-secure. As an individual one should maintain a distinct identity and shouldn't mix things.
I also agree with you that when someone is demonstrating that he/she isn't interested in you, then you should move on, because then it won't be a relationship.
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*thanks alysam.
when you are deceived then you dont look out for any, but the one who deceives you. that is the gift of one sided and true approach.
second coming may be possible
and if it is not, be it so.
yes, people are too hung up onto their doubts and fears and dislikes vis a vis others and so they go through the misery themselves quiet remarkably, which is so sad.
indeed their minds are close.
so are their senses of honesty and trust that they could get free & naturally are sensible only in making off with that honesty and trust.
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dushwari
Absolutely possible...you got to be ready to accept it a second time round though....Most of us too hung up on their previous love (me included) and have closed their minds and hearts to what could be out there.
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yup , like it says having 4 wives ..hehe Obviously one can have love , after love.
RIGHT ONLY FOR MAN I uess , ...but thts really hypocrisies..
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keep your enemy close but keep your freind closer