Re: do you believe it love, AFTER LOVE
words,
thanks for what you said here.
a million different reasons for anyone to assume that someone will be tough, simply because that someone sounds tough, (against only when the injustice will take place)
so when doubts are created and deliberately allowed to take home in the heart, of course the relationship is fraught.
the feeling of over protection is not as bad as the feeling of being un sure and that is what apparently guides some people, sometimes in the very wrong directions.
u get to the core of this: mixing up things.
doubts were created on purpose to remove someone.
betrayal was forced to take place.
that is exactly the case, devaluing someone was afoot and considered for granted
this will and does make relationships become sour, because one side is utterly unfairly judgmental and vindictive because of all else that has impressed itself on that side's mind.
in relationships, no lop sided conditions can be placed because that right there makes room for breaking apart.
maintaining a distinct identity as a sure footed individual, then, may not remain possible for even the individual who initiated a relationship.
after all the disappointment and failure in distinguishing the right from wrong, and is relayed quite helplessly by the party that withdraws, does not the phrase, 'move on' sound like, 'stop right here'?
dushwari
Yeah, if there are doubts then they should be addressed, but doubts shouldn't be created. The context of this statement is that sometimes one of the partner can become over-protective or feel overly un-secure. As an individual one should maintain a distinct identity and shouldn't mix things.
I also agree with you that when someone is demonstrating that he/she isn't interested in you, then you should move on, because then it won't be a relationship.