Re: Do u hit ur children?
I try my best not to do spanking/hitting etc. BUT they do test my patience, all four of them.
for us it was like many of you here...ammi was a terror for us in childhood....abbu never got involved. Alhamdulillah we moved on to be friends with each other in teen years n we still are :)
thts very true sometimes I guess u need to know ur child and see what works for them some need a good talk to realize there bad behaviour. others need a slap
and others need a good beating like the child I mentioned in my first post hahhaha… ok I’m joking I would of just picked him up and let him scream to the car until he knows he ain’t getting his own way :hinna:
Re: Do u hit ur children?
And albiet I Know it doesn't work, I still lose my patience and end up hitting him really bad... and then I cry over it later on. Grrrr..............
My son has a very strong will (at the age of 2). no matter how much i yell, it just gets worse. I havent hit him yet but i dont feel the need either.
whenever he is in temper, usually just taking him away from the situtaion works. he cries for a minute or 2 and then gets fine.
usually things like, "if you dont hold my hand we cant go for walk" works!
"if you want the light on, you have get in the bed" (yes he sleeps with light on :) )
but I absolutely DO NOT believe on hitting a child!
Sanna
Re: Do u hit ur children?
My mom never hit me but would scold me when i misbehaved. I used to be a very naughty kid and the scolding was enough to set me straight. Too much of any kind of discipling is bad.
you need to firstly make the kid realize they did something wrong, then scold them (or if you chose to slap them, then do so on the butt and NEVER on the head which is very dangerous). It's generally very scary when your usually loving mother gets angry at you. That's probably the worst feeling. So give your kids lots of love but when they are wrong, TELL them they are wrong and discipline them.
but it's important to only discipline when the child has done something wrong and NOT when you are feeling like crap and want to vent out your frustration at someone. That's possibly the worst thing you can do to a child. An aunt of mine used to hit her kids when SHE was pissed off at something and needed to vent out. so even if the poor kids were playing she'd yell at them and throw stuff at them for making a noise. Those kids are now adults and treat their mom like ****, just as she treated them throughout their life. It's very disturbing.
Re: Do u hit ur children?
There is a BIG difference between beating a child and spanking them in order to enforce some discipline. Myself and my siblings (minus the youngest lol) were hit when we misbehaved and we have all turned out to be very well mannered and respectful adults. It never hurt us or caused us any degree of long term pain - it was just a tap on the hand or a smack on the bottom, and I will do the same with my own children if they misbehave and don't listen when they are told off. No PC nonsense will stop me from disciplining my children in the way I feel is best.