Do u hit ur children?

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I'm not that strict and if you met my pupils, you would be able to see that they are not afraid of me whatsoever. If they were, they wouldnt pee me off so much!

I can't wait for parents evening next week, I get to tell on them! :D

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I think you summed it up here .... knowing there is a consequence for bad behaviour. I would never hit (Inshallah never will), but he's gotta know that there are consequences for bad behaviour. He doesn't get to do what he wants whenever he wants .... that being said, I don't want him to be scared of me. Knowing there is a consequence for bad behaviour and being scared of your parents are really two very different things.

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I got chappals & hanger beatings a lot from my mom but was never scared of her, dad on the other hand was scary.... he would just do 'the eyes' and we would freeze. Good old days :)

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^ same here…dad never touched us and I was dead scared of him, but mom could beat us all she like and it wasn’t the same fear…

I would like to think I wouldn’t hit my children, but if need be I would…hitting me would be a total no no, some sort of discipline needs to be involved…however one may go about this with their own children please try not to hit your children in public, it really makes it awkward for the people around you :bummer:

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^they would call child services on us here if we did that.

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I bet she was thinking about it.

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I know...I'm talking about at dawats and stuff

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man, its always the mums innit?
my mum wasted her potential and went on to become a teacher, amazingly she was known as a very gentle teacher, but at home..****…I honestly believe that woman invented waterboarding..her mcguver like capabilities to improvise with any available object to use as a torture device were uncanny, maybe it was her superhero power..

the accuracy of throwing something at us, man oh man, i think she had a keen sense of aerodynamics, flight and arcs..how can sandals turn a 90 degree corner…I fully believe that beckham was trained by her, forget bend it like beckham, I am going to write a book, bend it like mumzy.

I think this was a genetic gift, because when i used to go to Pakistan and had 3 years worth of omework to do in one summer, I would waste the entire summer and then my khala would be assigned to make sure homework was done, and her instrument of choice was a hand fan, just held upside down…to this day I see handfans as less of something to help u cool down in the event of a power outage, but as an academic device..

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^ OMG. :rotfl: I posted about my mum’s “flying jhoota technique” a while back, in this forum…

:k:

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maybe our mother are related or went to the same academy..some sort of "mothers against kids having fun academy"

btw, here are my previous posts on this topic..from a different thread

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:rotfl:

For sure, they went to the same finishing school…or they picked up the same training manual. :hehe:

Now i wonder if, as a mother myself, i will be able to master the technique…not to hit my children with of course…but still, it seems like a good skill to have :hmmm:

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I think I have mastered my dad-dude's jedi mind tricks.
one raised eyebrow does the trick..

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I always make sure with my younger cousins, i let them know 'whos in charge' I cant stand kids with no respect especially to olders. If their rude to me i'll raise my voice n they shut up. If i raise my voice and they still dont listen i completly ignore them. And trust me in the end they are always well behaved for their bajji!

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X2 is right. The things that matter in teaching a child to behave are consequences for bad behavior and consisitency in applying the rules.

When a child receives a consequence for bad behavior they DO learn. But if they do it again (which is pretty typical) and do NOT get a consequence then these are the kids that turn out to be bratty. They know that they can sometimes push it, sometimes get away with it.

Consistency is key. Rules are rules and when rules are broken they need to pay the price EACH and EVERY time or they wont learn.

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X2 and maroush :hehe:

and yes Maroush I know all about those evil eyes, my mum used to take it one step further and do this thing with her teeth where she would get her top teeth and put them over her bottom lip. I don’t know tho are we people to soft? do u think our parents felt guilty for hitting us when we where younger?

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^ guilty??? my mom used to cry like a baby afterwards! :hehe:

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I’ve only been hit once by my mom, never by my dad. Strange but so true. My dad used verbal chappals that smashed your self esteem at that point :mad:. On a recent trip we chatted about that and laughed about it…thank goodness it didn’t make a negative mark in my life because I was able to look beyond that and recognize his love and care. However, I shouldn’t use that approach because unlike my dad, I tend to get carried away by my nagging style :nahi:.

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I almost got beat up by a 3.5 year old a few weeks ago

Yeah i’m gonna be a bad mommy :nahi:

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Gosh, I dont remember my dad ever hitting me. My mom was the screamer and crazy one. And she did the emotinoal blackmail and man she laid it on thick. Even now Im scared to tell my mom that I’m going out at 12 AM cz she’ll yell at me :hehe:

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I do but I know it doesn't help. My son is what they call a strong-willed child and no amount of yelling, shouting or hitting works on him.. it makes him all the more rebellious.