If they don’t listen? I came across a women today who’s child just wasn’t listening to her. He was running around screaming and shouting bcoz he wanted a toy, and I think he even hit her. she was trying to calm him down by talking to him calmly, but he just wasn’t interested. I must say she had alot of patience in attempting to deal with his behaviour coz in my head I was thinking if tht was my child he would of got a slap by now. she was there for about 10 minutes trying to calm him down in the end I had to leave so I don’t know what happened.
This child clearly wasn’t scared of his mum and was totally in charge of the situation. I knew when I was younger if I did something wrong there would always be a consequence and 8/10 it would mean the back of my mums chappal, which subsequently made me not do"bad things". So I wanted to ask everyone so u think its a good or bad thing to hit ur child if they did something wrong. or have fear in their parents at least?
i think some level of fear is important. not fear to the extent that would be personality-wise be damaging for the child.
as for hitting ... hmmmmmmm ... i dont know ....
Yep, have slapped my daughter a couple of times (at home, on her back)… felt really guilty afterwards though but she was misbehaving and hit me which is totally unacceptable in my book.
She’s just better disciplined now, so haven’t done it lately… timeouts or removing her from the place I’m at works. If she pulled stunts like that in public, I would probably just pick her up and take her home… I don’t know how moms put up with that kinda stuff so patiently… I would flip.
If your child hits you, look them right in the eye and and put your fist out for them to hit. Say, "You want to hit Mama (or Daddy)? Go ahead: hit this." It surprises them to be given the permission to do so, and so they don't do it very hard, if they go ahead and do it. It won't hurt you (much less than them striking out at your face or breast!), and it teaches then that you are not afraid of them, that you are impervious to their misbehaviour - AND that you are WAY stronger than them, and it hurts their hand more to hit your fist than to hit some softer part of you.
sometimes, not hit but a light slap, ofcourse I feel bad and guilty about it as she mostly starts crying or making a sad face. Its not good to hit a child and should not really be done.
No, i feel too guilty after a smack on the bum, and them crying and those teary eyes..so dont do it. They are so little and I am a huge beast, me even raising my voice scares the crap out of them, I was very frustrated once and yelled and they got very very scared, so that was the end of that. A gentle but firm approach works.
i know lots of parents including my cousins whose kids are soooo badly behaved and rude, and they are only 2 years old....they spit, hit, punch kick other kids and all they get is a warningwhich never materialises.....i actually told my cusin to slap him one, and she said yeh but hes soo small.....whatever.
thats a lame excuse, if they dont learn now they wont ever. the reason we were well behaved as kids because we got slaps, the next generation are a bunch of unruly brats, who are cotton-wooled and bumblegummed too much...a slap is absolutly fine....
Don’t you parents use “the eyes”…?! My mother used to give us that look and we would freeze. :no:
That seems to be working so far with my girls. I haven’t got to the point where i have to give them a smack on the bottom.
I believe in instilling discipline into children from a young age. If you give them even an inch of leeway, they’ll take a mile. You have to be consistent.
i know lots of parents including my cousins whose kids are soooo badly behaved and rude, and they are only 2 years old....they spit, hit, punch kick other kids and all they get is a warningwhich never materialises.....i actually told my cusin to slap him one, and she said yeh but hes soo small.....whatever.
thats a lame excuse, if they dont learn now they wont ever. the reason we were well behaved as kids because we got slaps, the next generation are a bunch of unruly brats, who are cotton-wooled and bumblegummed too much...a slap is absolutly fine....
interestingly enough, unruly brats is what each generation calls the next one :)
discipline is fine and needed but how you do it is a diff issue
someone I know used to be beaten with a garden hose, and turned out to be a real scumbag, plus I can go to any desi event and see 20 somethings and 30 somethings act in an unrul hoodlum manner anyways, so how can we say that it worked? hitting is not the answer. fair, firm and consistent discipline is
but she was misbehaving and hit me which is totally unacceptable in my book.