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Yes this is true. However, basic things like alcohol/smoking/binge eating are all reasonable things to expect that your spouse will not have. Those should be deal breakers for anyone honestly. Force these people to fix their habits, and then they can get married. They wont fix their habits because women let these things go and marry these guys anyway, so guys know they can keep their bad habits. We need to boycott this stuff more as women.
Attraction is all reasonable from both sides but people expect instant gratification. You meet a person, you will not immediately feel attraction. Nearly never happens. You spend time with someone, keep spending time with them, and you can get the sense that you enjoy being with them or not. That should be the focus, not whether they make you have an orgasm on the spot on first sight. That’s just unrealistic.
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That is actually a personal preference. Plenty of desi women have chosen to marry men who are smokers. Plenty of overweight/binge eating men manage to find wives. So no, those things are not deal breakers for everyone. Its not about how things SHOULD be. It’s the reality of how things actually are.
Why are the choices at such extremes? What about meeting and getting to know a person who you think looks ok or decent? A man or woman doesn’t have to have an orgasm at the first sight, but if they have 0 attraction at the first sight, then why blame them for immediately saying “no”? If a guy looks at you and feels 0 physical attraction to you, you would still want him to get to know you? And if after weeks/months of getting to know you, if he still does not feel any physical attraction despite thinking that you have a nice personality and breaks things off, you’d be completely ok with that?
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Sounds like me. honestly, me and my friends are like that. We are not born in Pakistan not raised there. We are what people may call moderately religious, traditional and conservative as well. Don’t wear hijab yet dress decently and yes we work and go to college/heading towards professional jobs.
Finding a guy like that is harder than finding a girl like that tbh
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And…also…I would like to add this to my requirement..that she isn’t like .."ohh…Gawd…I m missing soo much…Ohhh…Gawd… I feel like I am trapped…Ohhh mmmyyy Gawddd… I need to break free and do by my will…like someone who is totally comfy with all that…and plus…is into enjoying…"I honestly feel there is no problem with gaping at guys as long as she doesnt gets into all “I need a guy phase”
Professional life living brat…(she should be a brat when dealing with world..and an awesome mate when talking to me and has exact enjoying theories as myself…:p..)
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I’m culturally conservative but religiously moderate. Based on my past relationships..
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I know what you are saying, I was in your position once too, and now I am with with.
Mate, you were in relationships, and now you are asking for one, who kinda doesnt have any relationship with guys . . thats a little bit conflicting. .
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Studying at a university in Canada–definitely know plenty of girls like this. Problem is, no one notices them. They’re always ignored in favour of the ‘hot’ ones. When they are noticed, guys like to dub them ‘uptight’ or ‘boring’.
I suppose my clothing might be considered ‘tight’ by some people (looser clothes make me look chubby due to my body type and the fact that I have a round face ) but I constantly get told by people that I’m very conservative (too conservative even), just because I don’t drink/smoke/go clubbing and avoid parties. I rarely come across guys who appreciate ‘traditional/conservative’ girls.
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^ Exactly, I have heard people saying traditional girls “behanji types”.Sometimes I think some desi guys are just so confused in what they actually want.
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I know someone like OP who tries to classify every small trait or habit of a girl into a tight category (culturally and religiously liberal or conservative) and make sure the girl fits into the right box for him. These are the type of husband who will never be happy with their wife. This guy compares his wife’s each move and dressing and styling at a party to his 25 yr old cousin’s new bride and also his 60 year old manager’s second wife. The girl will never be able to live up to his standard because she can’t cook Roti as well as the Pakistani housewife next door but when she starts focusing on the kitchen to make him happy he will notice she is no longer as outgoing and spontaneous as the single friend who is coming over for dinner next week. Her dress will either always be too modest for this type of event or too liberal and of course he will pass these judgements on the way back home after he has observed every other girl’s attire at the event.
My cousin is married to a guy like this who thinks his job is to put girls into these categories and labels but thinks that all his own actions past and present are irrelevant and he can’t be judged because “situation kuch aisi thi”.
Him dating in past is cool he is still “traditional” but girl dating is “liberal”. Double standards.
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I and most of my friends fall into that category. I also know loads of girls like that. It’s probably just where your based or who your social circle consists of.
Tbh I find it hard to come across guys who have all of the above from around my area/social circle, and not the girls.
Unreasonable/asking for too much or nah?
honestly, me and my friends are like that. We are not born in Pakistan not raised there. We are what people may call moderately religious, traditional and conservative as well. Don’t wear hijab yet dress decently and yes we work and go to college/heading towards professional jobs.
) but I constantly get told by people that I’m very conservative (too conservative even), just because I don’t drink/smoke/go clubbing and avoid parties. I rarely come across guys who appreciate ‘traditional/conservative’ girls.