do traditional professional girls still exist?

[Paheli00]

Re: do traditional professional girls still exist?

@PyariCgudia

However, basic things like alcohol/smoking/binge eating are all reasonable things to expect that your spouse will not have. Those should be deal breakers for anyone honestly.

That is actually a personal preference. Plenty of desi women have chosen to marry men who are smokers. Plenty of overweight/binge eating men manage to find wives. So no, those things are not deal breakers for everyone. Its not about how things SHOULD be. It’s the reality of how things actually are.

@PyariCgudia

Attraction is all reasonable from both sides but people expect instant gratification. You meet a person, you will not immediately feel attraction. Nearly never happens. You spend time with someone, keep spending time with them, and you can get the sense that you enjoy being with them or not. That should be the focus, not whether they make you have an orgasm on the spot on first sight. That’s just unrealistic.

Why are the choices at such extremes? What about meeting and getting to know a person who you think looks ok or decent? A man or woman doesn’t have to have an orgasm at the first sight, but if they have 0 attraction at the first sight, then why blame them for immediately saying “no”? If a guy looks at you and feels 0 physical attraction to you, you would still want him to get to know you? And if after weeks/months of getting to know you, if he still does not feel any physical attraction despite thinking that you have a nice personality and breaks things off, you’d be completely ok with that?