do traditional professional girls still exist?

[AnnaKarenina]

Re: do traditional professional girls still exist?

@pak2015

I’m curious why some Pakistani girls have become so liberal? The vices I mentioned above are considered immoral even in the most liberal societies so why did we adopt them. Is it upbringing? Friends? Evironment? Parents giving too much freedom? Parents being too strict? Daddy issues? Maternal pressure and being put down by mother? Our society and culture emphasizing superificial things like looks, skin color, fashion, partying and having fun, money, and materialistic stuff instead of education and values? Is it because its easy to do these things these days with phones/internet/texting/skyping? All of the above? Just curious as a future parent, I’d like to have a daughter. What works? What doesnt work?

Guys rebel but in different ways..why do girls when they undergo their rebellious stage..they often use sex and sexuality as their form of rebellion? Do they think its empowering, makes them feel wanted and validated or is getting attention from guys really that important to them lol? I do think most girls get over it after experiencing it and getting used by a guy (this is what I call the hijab stage for some girls after they’ve done some messed up stuff they start wearing hijab as a PR move or become religious after realizing their mistakes and sins)

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done wrong also, we all have, and guys are much much much worse in general. I have a good understanding of that as a guy..just trying to gain an understanding from the girls side so please don’t make this into a sexist issue, I’m genuinely curious about what goes through a girls mind

I don’t drink/smoke/go clubbing and have strong values and am educated, but some of the “liberal” qualities do apply to me. It depends what your views and family views are and also the social circles you associate with. To many, my clothing might be objectionable, although not very revealing, is usually skinny jeans/pants or tight dresses/skirts (I’m skinny) and my shalwar kameezes don’t have dupatas mostly and are tight fitted too. In my family and friends, this is completely normal and everyone is modern and “fashionable”, so definitely no rebellion or any sort of issues going on. This isn’t some Western invasion, everyone has always been like this and no one raises eyebrows because it’s “normal”. Some who’ve been raised in strict environments do it out of rebellion, some do it because their attitude towards culture/religion are different. You can’t pinpoint and judge their reasons.

I still wouldn’t classify myself as someone very liberal and am a fairly practicing Muslim and pretty traditional in my views of marriage. You can’t judge girls on the basis of “liberal” and “conservative” and form opinions. Wearing more Westernized clothing doesn’t ascribe you to a certain personality type and neither does wearing a hijab.

No one is perfect and everyone has different attitudes towards religion. We all pick and choose what we want to follow in Islam and are at different levels with our personal faith.