have a harder life than the average person or do you think its all fate whatever happens in our lives..so if its fate/kismat intelligent people suffer just as much as foolish decision makers?
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I do not get stupid, you mean those people who are illeterate or those people who do not get things into their heads easily even if they are educated or those people who do not differentiate between when they should be serious and when not?
by stupid i do not mean illiterate..i mean that htey dont make wise decisions, dont understand things before hand..u know?..so even an educated person can be in this category..get it...?...:)
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soni i already answered your question and statement in my first post hehe... just for your reference here it is again.
Oh yes it is harder for these kinds of people, plus those people that do not understand things easily and jump to conclusions always suffer and also these kinds of people create a lot of misunderstandings in their heads.
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^so true Aisha!!
they get so ahead of of themselves...without even pausing to think..
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I am telling you because i used to be one of those people:smack:
But someone, straightened me out:o
So i can tell you exactly what these kinds of people go through, from personal experiance i will tell you.
My best friend told me something and without thinking or anything i always used to presume that she is angry with me and not on speaking terms with me and write all sorts of poems and sorry notes and god knows what. Then she used to tell me what happened and how without even thinking properly i jumped to conclusions. And whenever i used to ask her why you help me out she is like “if i wont tell you, who will? the zamana is very zalim and you need to straighten yourself to live in it”
She has made me to some extent a very much level headed thinker and i have stopped with all those childish antics of mine and childlike behaviour and thinking.
I can tell you it is definitely very hard for people who are like this plus it is hard for the people they live around. The people around them get annoyed by them and frustrated by them at each possible minute and the person himself/herself does not seem to make any right decision in life. Plus these kinds of people think alot, too much thinking is also bad for a person’s image because it creates misunderstandings and as you said they think without even pausing for even a second and comtemplating on the issue at hand. They jump to conclusions and then suffer and to rectify their mistake they make even more mistakes.
^ wow..excellent post aisha..im impressed sweety...;)...thanks..
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And another thing these kinds of people who do not seem to get things easily in their minds are the ones who get depressed more. Why and how come? See when misunderstandings get created and do not get resolved on time, these kinds of people think alot so they will think of the matter too much even though later when it gets resolved it turns out to be nothing, they sink into depression and they get stressed out for nothing. i believe that a person can become stupid and a stupid person can become intelligent.
well done aisha :biggthumb you are so much like me.. even i experienced this, infact as we speak, i m still struggling to think straight, use my brain, not think much and be able to answer ppl appropraitely. I mean before i also didnt understand jokes, i would ask alot of qs, repeat myself but then after marriage i had to change cus i cudnt be all this childish and everything. But i still have a long way to go. I have made alot of mistakes in life and said things(unintentionally) that have been taken very -vely so now i try my best to b “politically correct”… it takes a hell lot of time but some day I will reach there I guess 
good input mall..;)
And another thing these kinds of people who do not seem to get things easily in their minds are the ones who get depressed more. Why and how come? See when misunderstandings get created and do not get resolved on time, these kinds of people think alot so they will think of the matter too much even though later when it gets resolved it turns out to be nothing, they sink into depression and they get stressed out for nothing. i believe that a person can become stupid and a stupid person can become intelligent.
so truuuuuuuuuuue! i feel like crying after your post. how enlightening. you mst b really gud in understanding ppl like me.. hehehehe seriously, i cant agree more. i have been depressed so many times cus i dint understand and then think think think... its stressful being me :D LOL
well done aisha :biggthumb you are so much like me.. even i experienced this, infact as we speak, i m still struggling to think straight, use my brain, not think much and be able to answer ppl appropraitely. I mean before i also didnt understand jokes, i would ask alot of qs, repeat myself but then after marriage i had to change cus i cudnt be all this childish and everything. But i still have a long way to go. I have made alot of mistakes in life and said things(unintentionally) that have been taken very -vely so now i try my best to b "politically correct".... it takes a hell lot of time but some day I will reach there I guess :)
Thank You:)
Well i can do the think straight part now, as well as the usage of the brain and answering people appropriately but for some reason i still cannot understand jokes. Infact i wrote a big blog entry on the same issue in my blog that i take things to heart very easily and get hurt and do not understand when people are just pulling my leg and not actually serious with me.
I think asking questions is good but if they are intellectual ones and not just dumb stupid questions which will annoy the person you are asking them from.
Yes it does take time to be politically correct, before i entered university i used to be very bad at it but now i have to a certain extent corrected myself on many occasions when i am speaking or writing. Inshallah you will and we should never stop trying.
LOL it seems we have the Dubai thing in common so it has to be all Dubai’s fault:cb:
Well do not cry, i would not like anyone to cry:) Well as i said i am good at understanding people like these because i used to be like this too. Trust me when i say i know, i know! I just thank god that i have a really really understanding best friend and two close friends who did not leave me and helped me to change. Same here, even yesterday i will tell you i messaged my best friend at 3 o clock in the night and she did not reply back but then at 4 something i saw her online on msn. So without even thinking anything i jumped at her and said how come you did not reply? blah blah and she is like i was coming back from a shaadi and was driving dear and i was like oh:bummer: ma baad??
I used to get really really depressed before but now i dont because i dont jump to conclusions now. However small small things like the one i mentioned with my best friend happens once in awhile but i am trying to get rid of this habit too.
Thank You:)
Well i can do the think straight part now, as well as the usage of the brain and answering people appropriately but for some reason i still cannot understand jokes. Infact i wrote a big blog entry on the same issue in my blog that i take things to heart very easily and get hurt and do not understand when people are just pulling my leg and not actually serious with me. .
hang in there my friend! i still suck at getting jokes... but i m not just talkin abt jokes here.. i mean majority of the times what ppl say has a double meaning, they are sayin something indirectly, or insulting you indirectly in a humourous way.. u dun get it that time and when you come home, youre like, sht man, thats what she was saying... so many times my husband has told me the real meaning behind what ppl said. it drives me up the wall.. but i m improving i guess.
yeah maybe its something to do with the air in Dubai.. haha! havin gud friends really helps. youre one lucky girl! i guess, i jump to conclusions too but that is only becus i find myself somtimes unable to understand the reality of things and end up assuming, thinking, and stuff… but i know its not a gud habit. we should ask and before that listen rather than jumping to conclusions and not givin the chance to someone to explain himself
hang in there my friend! i still suck at getting jokes... but i m not just talkin abt jokes here.. i mean majority of the times what ppl say has a double meaning, they are sayin something indirectly, or insulting you indirectly in a humourous way.. u dun get it that time and when you come home, youre like, sht man, thats what she was saying... so many times my husband has told me the real meaning behind what ppl said. it drives me up the wall.. but i m improving i guess.
Yes that is what i am doing these days, hanging. Oh no i am not that stupid hehe i can know instantly when someone is saying something sarcastically or with double meaning and tried to insult me. The joke thing i suck at but i am trying to get myself better at it.
yeah maybe its something to do with the air in Dubai.. haha! havin gud friends really helps. youre one lucky girl! :) i guess, i jump to conclusions too but that is only becus i find myself somtimes unable to understand the reality of things and end up assuming, thinking, and stuff... but i know its not a gud habit. we should ask and before that listen rather than jumping to conclusions and not givin the chance to someone to explain himself
Yes, hot humid dry air of Dubai! Lucky i would not say but definitely blessed! Same here used to happen to me alot, cannot focus and think logically and thinking too much. I also used to assume things and alot of them! Misunderstandings used to be created and fights followed. I know it is not a good habit! it is a very bad habit and dangerous for us too in the sense that we can loose friendships and good people will also stop supporting us and being there for us.
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Yes thank you for the input voicey but seriously in this thread? You did not even answer any of the questions asked by her or even share your thoughts.
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I dont think stupid people have a harder life because there are so many stupid people in this world that they can relate to. It's the geniuses that may have difficulty in this life. ;)