Do single desi women live with family until marriage?

[Bobby1]

Re: Do single desi women live with family until marriage?

@Thornewood9

In my previous comment i said that in ISLAM the woman is under her father’s protection until marriage when she is then under her husband’s. Just because ISLAM has given a woman a form of security and support in this way does not mean that a woman is oppressed. There are many Muslim women who live with their families, professional women and non professional women, and they are quite happily looked after. Obviously there are bad people who abuse their rights and disregard their responsibilities but then they will have to answer for that on judgement day. I lived with my family until i was married and alhumdulillah i had a pretty free life. I had the use of a car that i shared with my sister, i had a part time job so that meant i had my own money (although my mum and dad always gave me money whether i needed it or not) and i could go out with friends. Obviously i had restrictions such as no boyfriend, be home before 10pm and to let my parents know where i was going and with who and to always have my phone with me. But that was my parents way of keeping me safe. (The no boyfriend thing i wouldn’t have done anyway because Islamically i knew it was haram and being raised in a practising Muslim home i learnt that. However my mum always used to say if i ever found anyone that i liked to let her know.)
I was probably lucky that alhumdulillah my family was a practising Muslim family who knew their deen and were God fearing in keeping to their responsibilities. However pretty much all my friends and my extended family were all similar.
As for women in Pakistan, yes there are women being oppressed in Pakistan but then again there are women who have pretty decent and good lives too. But that can be said of any country in the East or the West. Just because the West promotes “freedom” and “equality” doesn’t mean it’s a Utopia and also doesn’t mean that any other country that is not in the west falls short.
Need to be open minded and not just view everything and everyone in black and white.

And this is where the west has a problem with us as our values conflict with the values of their society. Gender equality and human equality is the core principle of their society. There are women who are more accomplished than many men and it would be an insult to say to them that their husband is their protectors. The society does not leave the abusive father or husband to be judged on the judgment day, they will be judged by the district court judge, many times a female judge at that. The west created laws to protect women. I heard the religious council blocked the women protection bill back home for being unreligious. My ex-lives by herself and is not dependent on a male for anything, she shovels, mows, paints, fixes n all.

The best thing a father can give his daughter is not an allowance but the confidence, courage, skill and strength to be self-reliant and not dependent on husbands protection and the freedom to live her life on her own terms.

I saw this documentary where the old Saudi men were buying little Syrian girls, should we allow them to do that and be judged on the Akhira?