Dunno, but sometimes I feel that when I worked fulltime, people paid more attention to me, what I say, and respected me more…perhaps because I was bringing home some $$ and was wearing business suits and high heels and mingled with a professional crowd. I’m not talking about my husband or relatives…maybe some relatives, but mostly friends, acquaintances…that sort.
Now that I am a stay home mommy, people seem to think I spend all day sleeping or chatting with my friends on the phone or having afternoon chai paani with gossipy women around the block. Don’t talk about GS because most of you log in from work as well. I can have GS on and still do things around the house
I guess I’m getting particularly complexed after an old friend commented that “paR likh ker sab gava diya. You should have more to offer.” :hinna:
Aisa kyun bhai? I work hard. I am up with everyone else and sleep after everyone else, take care of stuff around the house, pretty much everything, take care of my kidos and all their activities, teach them, volunteer at the masjid, teach little kids there…isn’t that work?
Am I not useful, when you prick me, don’t I bleed ???
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You know I say, hats off to working moms who can take care of their homes and kids as well as have a career. I totally respect and admire that. But if I do have that choice or preference why should someone else be bothered by it ???
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I dont doubt that a bit, i mean your last post
Nik, i believe you are just as superb being home and taking care of the family, raising your children as per your best. And now imagine bucks but the sad opposite of what it is, i guess that would not be as preferable a situation as you are in. Dont let the people and esp such xyz jerks ruin your self confidence gurl
There is nothing wong with being a lady of leisure …
TBH, i thought the same… I thought the adjustment of working in a fast paced environment to being a full time mother was going to leave me seriously bored and not mentally stimulated… but i have satisfaction with the fact that my children have a strong bond with me, i’m there for them and i wouldn’t want their early years to be any different…
Initially, there was a difference of opinion in our house, as hubby was literally brought up by his nanny as his mom went back to work after weeks of giving birth…… he wanted the same for our kids… but i totally refused to do this…given the realtionship between hubby and my MIL now, which is not your typical mother/child relationship… i definitely don’t want that for my kids
So have satisfaction in that, Nik… at least your kids know that YOU are their mom, and you’re there for them no matter what… go stay at home moms!
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Niksik i think it varies wth people, some ppl may see stay at home mums as lazy or not smart enough or skilled enough to contribute to the professional worls, others see it as a choice made by someone who is smart enough, skilled enough to contribute professionally but has made a choice to put that on hold or to sacrifice that to focus on establishing a great family and raise kids
Do whatever u feel is good, forget about others, you are giving your knowledge thru tutoring you kids and helping them doing their homework, so you are still using what you studied,
you might be knowing, 90% of south indian women are home makers, and almost all south indian wives have doctrates, post graduates or atleast graduate, my wife did her master's in mathematics was into software and working before marriage after that she quit
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Nik, this exact attitude has bitten me (AND my kids) more than a handful of times. Esp with docs and my special needs boy. They see "housewife" and just dismiss me and assume that I'm a village idiot.
This led to many months of stress and an unhealthy situation for my son. So once I found my voice and started growling at the docs and asking them about things THEY havent yet read about in the medical journals things started to turn around.
Staying home with your kids very rarely means that you la-de-dah, eat bonbons and watch soaps all day. Actually, my professional life in wall street technology (70 hours min at work, the rest of the time on call) was MUCH less stressful in so many ways than being a stay-home mom.
I'd never for all the money in the world, change the fact that I'm here at home with and for my kids. But dealing with that particular "tood" TOTALLY makes me wanna go postal.
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Nikki, I believe a woman who is a home maker has alot more substance then a working woman... raising the kids, keeping a strong family environment, being there for your kids and husband is in itself alot more tough then managing office work !
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… he wanted the same for our kids… but i totally refused to do this…given the realtionship between hubby and my MIL now, which is not your typical mother/child relationship… i definitely don’t want that for my kids 
