I seriously question the notion that everybody should be married. A good many don’t deserve to be. For various reasons. Chief being they are too warped to sustain a good marriage and most will completely **** up their kids.
A majority of the criminals in our world come from broken homes, abusive parents and generally lack role models.
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I think the root cause is that not everyone deserves to have children and just cz u can...doesn't mean you should.
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Correlating having kids with getting married is an old shool thingy. Former does not need later no more.
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I seriously question the notion that everybody should be married. A good many don't deserve to be. For various reasons. Chief being they are too warped to sustain a good marriage and most will completely **** up their kids.
A majority of the criminals in our world come from broken homes, abusive parents and generally lack role models.
Maybe some don't. Some people definitely don't deserve to have kids (esp those who have no money to raise them).
I think the notion that marriage is a must is more prevalent in Desi cultures. There are people who marry only for the sake of marrying (and for sex).
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True. Not everybody does. But even marriage, its considered a sacred religious obligation for most people of faith. But a good many people these days take it for granted. I mean come on you and I both have friends who we know if they get married they would just ruin their lives and that of the spouse.
Some people are not meant to get married.
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I seriously question the notion that everybody should be married. A good many don't deserve to be. For various reasons. Chief being they are too warped to sustain a good marriage and most will completely **** up their kids.
A majority of the criminals in our world come from broken homes, abusive parents and generally lack role models.
Welcome back
I don't agree with anything you say...except this.
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Maybe some don't. Some people definitely don't deserve to have kids (esp those who have no money to raise them).
I think the notion that marriage is a must is more prevalent in Desi cultures. There are people who marry only for the sake of marrying (and for sex).
Yeah it doesn't happen in Roman Catholic South America or Africa. Nope. I have a question though, most of your responses always have negative comments about desi culture. Inferiority complex or psychological trauma?
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I mean come on you and I both have friends who we know if they get married they would just ruin their lives and that of the spouse.
One guy I knew has such a extreme view of Islam that we friends often say "Iski biwi bari mushkil zindagi guzaray gi"
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always have negative comments about desi culture. Inferiority complex or psychological trauma?
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Why are you so touchy? Pigeon syndrome maybe? (Where you just close your eyes and refuse to acknowledge the situation)
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A question does not denote any form of emotional attachment. The reason I ask is that the question was generic, without comment on race, creed or religion. Yet you comment specifically on a subset of culture. That is telling.
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A question does not denote any form of emotional attachment. The reason I ask is that the question was generic, without comment on race, creed or religion. Yet you comment specifically on a subset of culture. That is telling.
So you disagree with what I said about a lot of people in desi society marrying just to get laid?
Its often not the love between a man and a woman that leads to marriage (as proved by the prevalence of arranged marriages) but the need for marriage to start a family aka "have kids"
Although its just as well that we have an arranged marriage system because the way some guy guys think about women, they won't get married without it.
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i know i know…a few don’t deserve to get married 
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The issue is not agreement or disagreement. Considering that arranged marriage rates have in fact dropped and people in general get married later along with the population imbalance of female to male ratios. The question I have posed is a simple one. Why must you relate every thread you post in to desi culture in a negative manner.
The thread was generic. Why make it apply to a specific culture.
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The issue is not agreement or disagreement. Considering that arranged marriage rates have in fact dropped and people in general get married later along with the population imbalance of female to male ratios. The question I have posed is a simple one. Why must you relate every thread you post in to desi culture in a negative manner.
The thread was generic. Why make it apply to a specific culture.
OK then, lets remove cultural references from it. Take this as my reply:
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Maybe some don't. Some people definitely don't deserve to have kids (esp those who have no money to raise them). here are people who marry only for the sake of marrying (and for sex).
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I remember hearing from someone that "They ask you to get a license to drive but nobody checks to see if you are qualified to reproduce....."
not having the right skill-set to drive and not having the right parenting skills are both fatal...........
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Who are we to decide who can't get married and who can and can't have kids?
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Who are we to decide who can't get married and who can and can't have kids?
we have intellect that tells us 12 year old kids are physically mature but mentally not quite prepared to get married or have children......I think this discussion could be an extension of the same sort of thinking.
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we have intellect that tells us 12 year old kids are physically mature but mentally not quite prepared to get married or have children......I think this discussion could be an extension of the same sort of thinking.
oooh that's gonna bring back the much discussed issue of the extension of childhood in today's world etc ...
But talking in general sense about an adult and sane and free person, I don't think we can decide on others' behalf nor we can judge their parental abilities.
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oooh that's gonna bring back the much discussed issue of the extension of childhood in today's world etc ...
But talking in general sense about an adult and sane and free person, I don't think we can decide on others' behalf nor we can judge their parental abilities.
I don't know......what if there is a test to ask some basic questions about parenting.......and the person has to score at a certain passing grade......
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Define marriage.
Isn't marriage a man made legal contract between two people? If your answer is a resounding no, then you get all kinds of social, family, and personal problems. If your answer is a resounding yes, then who are we to decide who deserves to get married and who doesn't since it doesn't affect us?
Among desis, marriage is a family matter hence we have all kinds of violations of basic human rights. Marriage is seen as a solution to all problems a young person faces- be it psychological or physical. It's this perverted version of marriage that prevents a person from developing to his/her full potential. The same values are instilled in their children and the cycle continues. This is not MY idea of marriage!
Among western cultures, marriage remains a legal document that can easily be breached. It doesn't define a person. It's basically an overlooked/less important part of their lives. People don't care about "marriage" in the west, they care about their own happiness. Sacrifices and compromises aren't expected from either gender. People live like a married couple happily and even have children and they don't go through a nasty divorce...would you say this companionship fullfills all your needs without a need for a contract? Yes, it does. People often do better when they don't feel they are being forced into something.. would you rather live your life in depression because you can't leave due to kids or be happy even if it means divorce and being a single parent?
So then tell me, why is it upto us to decide who does and doesn't deserve to get married? Kids are born either way...