Stalker, I think u r a closet anti-pathan person, either u really love them and would love to b like them, or u dont know them at all and are enforcing stereotypes like a person with no actual real experiences of pathan life.
Yes, such treatment sucks, but I have yet to meet a real pathan family where this goes on. I know many pathan families, and the men are VERY considerate of their wives. Im talking about in pakistan villages and in the UK. Also, when i visited a pathan area in pakistan recently, i noticed that any male escort would always carry the bags outside.