ye sara locha iss word “better” ka hai. what matters is, what do you think is a better treatment? I repeat… what do YOU think is a better treatment?
If I want the female members of my family to have proper hijab when they go out. Some may think I am a backward person and I dont treat them better than others. But let me assure you, there are bound to be people who will praise me for doing so and may consider me a good man, a real man.
If I let female members of my family do whatever they want regardless if its against Islam or my culture. Some may think that I am be-haya and be-ghairat. But again there may be others who think I am living in 21st century and I am a moderate person and broad minded too.
Pukhtoons are normally considered as very ghairat walay and I am a Pukhtoon myself but I have to accept that I have seen baray aala darjay ke be-ghairat in pukhtoons and also I have seen very ghairat walay punjabis.
meri both Punjabi and Pukhtoon bhayiyoN se aik request hai ke instead of pointing fingers and trying to find bad things in others we should try to find them in ourselves. This may help us in getting rid of our own flaws. I didnt like many things said here about Pukhtoons and I am sure Punjabis wouldnt like some bad things said about them too. So now if I start adding to the bad things of Punjabis, what would it do? it will put a question mark in the minds of those punjabis who are not agains pukhtoons but when they read something bad about them coming from a pukhtoon they most definitely wont like it.
I am proud to be a Pukhtoon and if you are proud to be a Punjabi I would respect you for that. Like who you are but dont hate others cuz they are not like you.