do mothers always know best?

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Re: do mothers always know best?

@Jolie

I feel sorry for you if your family gave you a really tough time during the very early phase of motherhood, looks like you are still quite bitter about that but we need to move on from that and focus on the issues on this thread.

This thread is not about Nano, dado, phuppho, chachi, chacha, neighbours and milkman giving their unsolicited advice on random insignificant things and hurting the feelings and the ego of a new mum.

For people who bothered to read more than just a title, this thread is about baby girl suffering from UTI and the*** doctor ***has advised the new mum to wash the baby instead of using the wipes, a practice also endoresed by the MIL. The new mother makes faces at her MIL in front of the guests (clearly this has nothng to do showing respect to your elders?) over her suggestion, her behaviour has caused an argumentative exchange between her and her husband again in front of the guests. The OP is a medical student who is currently staying with that family and according to her account (not assumptions based on one’s own experiences and gurdges) the mother does not appear to be suffering from baby blues or PPD, the enviorement at home is pretty individualistic and low key, the MIL is not an interfering type nor the guests . And to say 'Ill only listen to my own mother) in a joint family in front of your husband and his mother doesn’t indicate saas bahu tensions than I guess it just make the new mother just plain immature and disrespectful…hardly worthy of any serious sympathy.

As with new mothers becoming psychotic and whatnot, I guess that explains why there are awful lot number of new mothers under Social Services’ watchlist here in UK, I don’t if that lady is unfortunate or lucky that she’s in Pakistan.

I don’t why I’m even commenting on this issue, its probably all resolved for all we know…but the text book replies can so be cringe worthy and hard to ignore.

nope, not bitter amused, most definately.

Im not sure if you’ve been through it yourself, so not sure whether you really understand. But that is ok, as well.

Ive never said what the mum is doing ok. What I am saying is, get off her back.