do mothers always know best?

[Le_Pakistan]

Re: do mothers always know best?

@Jolie

The amount of hypocrisy is pretty astonishing, the mother is applying eye liner and carrying on with all sorts of bizarre ways and you get this cheering about where’s the harm, the baby will survive, (yes the babies can and do end up* surviving *a lot of other dodgy and idiotic tricks… how about we all go home and try and continue with them? But thats not the point I’m concerned with, the point is that if you turn the tables, imagine if that wretched creature that goes by the name of MIL was doing this to this her grandchild, I bet this thread would’ve turned into a fish market with so called enlightened and modern posters tearing apart the actions of MIL and equating applying of an eyeliner with some dangerous heavy duty safety hazards … and of course with the good old token bigoted bashing of the entire “desi” race. I find that quite hilarious and sad at the same time.

I don’t know how ‘desi’ minds over here roll, but where I live…they do say that try to grow up before you take on the responsiblity of raising another human being, perhaps thats something what the mother in question should consider, judging her behaviour through the OP’s account.

As with baby blues/PPD, you know in the West, one of the many reasons why this type of depression occurs and sustains is due the fact that often new mothers find no adequate help and support from friends and family, they feel incredibly alone in the process of rasing a child. So instead of throwing hissy fits and appearing bitterly unthankful, I guess some desi women somewhere along the line should appreciate the attention, genuine concerns and care they recieve by their family members. You only need to experience or just witness the despair, loneliness , helplessness, and the sad little state of some of the first time mums to realise how fortunate you are that there is someone to tell you with utmost respect and affection that “beta hold the baby like this…or aisse nahi aisse.” Show some respect to your elders at least…

:k:

Ego is a very bad thing.

When I see someone doing something ‘weird’ to their kid, I just give advice and ignore any faces made etc.

And I know that giving birth is hard and it imbalances your hormones and emotional stability and women should be given space yabyabyoo

But some women start behaving like cows. You know how cows behave when they give birth. Even looking at their calf makes them furious