Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

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Re: Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

@khattichic

Here’s what I don’t understand by all those who think it is unnatural for a women to earn more than her husband…wasn’t Bibi Khadija a wealthy, established business women when the Propehet Muhammad s.a.w.s married her? She had her own thriving business was a very succesful entreprenuer and yet, still cared for the Prophet (pbuh), was extremely generous with the poor and assisted her relatives financially. Has anyone ever heard or read anything about Bibi Khadija being prideful or anything but just and tender? Why was she called “Ameerat Quraysh/Princess of Quraysh” and “al-Tahira/The Pure One” Wasn’t she the one who would go to Cave of Hira to make sure Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) had adequate food, drink etc? Whatever financial and material wealth she brought to their marriage she bestowed upon him as THEIRS…isn’t that the example we should all strive to follow? How then, pray tell, does that make it wrong or unnatural for a women to excel in her career and out earn her husband?

Why do desis, and especially here on GS, do people forget that Islam was on the forefront of securing womens’ rights, both financially and religiously? It would do all of us alot of good if we would learn to seperate culture from religion and actually try to emulate what Islam teaches us instead of what we think is right by making sweeping generalizations and looking down on others.

Khatti, 90% of Islam is not followed by desis. If it was, then our desis would find themselves to be in a much envied position in the world right now, much admired, and much replicated.

We’re not. We lie, steal, cheat each other, abuse each other, commit crimes of monstrous evil and then yet, we as a community can’t even pull together to punish these criminals - ex. our leaders have been re-elected repeatedly over the last few decades and they’re all chors, and we know it, yet we haven’t lynched them out yet.

How do you expect the human experience at the level of man-woman relationship is to be any different? Men can’t do justice to each other, they will certainly not be doing any justice to their women. Countless pakistani professional girls, educated women, and women of good understanding are looked over, and the girls who do get the rishtas are girls who wont intimidate anyone. We lower our standards just to satisfy our ego, instead of using our ego, to advance ourselves.