Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

[Ghost14]

Re: Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

@Reha

Ghost, I am not saying love conquers all…God knows it doesn’t.

A man needs and usually is able to support a family by himself. Most families I know are supported solely by husband and that’s fine. But if it happens where your wife makes more…is that grounds for resentment or divorce? Why would it be? If she is stronger, so are you. Or am I being naive here?

I don’t know about Pakistan or other countries…but where I am…a woman should be able to stand alone. Not because she is competing with the world or men. But because if she cannot she is handicapping herself. Its not rare for families to go through some trouble at some stage in their marriage…it DOES happen and more than you might think.

It can be grounds for resentment if the woman makes *significantly *more than the man. I’m not saying a woman shouldn’t be able to earn as much as she likes, on the contrary, I think women should strive for the best. I’m just saying that a very successful woman should not settle for an average guy, because she might be unhappy and he might resent her. Is this always the case? No.

Keep in mind I’m referring to cases which are rare, where women might earn high six figure salaries. If your wife makes 100k and you “only” make 80k and you’re angry, then you have a problem. If you read my previous posts, I’ve mentioned that “comparable” is the key word. We’re saying the same thing, I’m just adding a further caveat that a successful woman shouldn’t settle, and settling, unfortunately, includes money in some cases. Strangely enough, I’m kind of echoing what PCG rants about except I’m saying that such a mismatch results in divorce because men feel threatened but **also because women feel resentment. I’m blaming both parties instead of just men. I hardly thing that’s unreasonable.