Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

[Ghost14]

Re: Do men feel threatened if their wives make more?

@Reha

To your first point…not every guy out there is making six figures. Not every wife is driving a benz or organizing shopping trips as the highlight of her day. So are those marriages suffering because the men are not banking? Money makes a difference - FOR SURE. No arguing with that point but is cash the only way a man feels masculine? Is money what makes him a man or is it more than that? I think for me…beyond anything its responsibility. If I made more than him but he felt it was his responsibility to provide for his family…I’d HANDS DOWN respect a man like that. One of my friends (Muslim and Pakistani) is in a position where she makes more than her hubby. I’ve asked her about how husband handles it and she says he has a strict rule about things…anything that you buy for the house and for you comes from my money. You can do what you please with your own money. She saves her money of course for her family but he feels she is his responsibility…their marriage is far from suffering.

To your second point…that is a can of worms best left closed. There is a growing number of women nowadays who hold professional degrees while their male counterparts don’t. Its one of the reasons you will find many many many women in their late twenties and early thirties single…because they are also looking for someone who is on the same level. But there aren’t enough men who are at the same level. It has nothing to do with their competence and I am not starting a gender war here…its their situation or life in general.

I’m referring to cases where the guy might be making 30-40k a year, and the woman is earning in excess of 100-200k. You don’t think that would cause problems? Unless the guy is a well renowned artist, or breeds horses, or is an adventurer or something, he will feel out classed next to his wife. And a women like that might also become frustrated by his lack of ambition. If you believe that “love conquers all” and all that, that’s fine, but I don’t and I’ve read plenty of studies where marriage councilors suggest that scenarios like the one described above are a recipe for trouble.

As for the second paragraph, agreed, it’s best left alone but that’s a growing problem.